Post # 1
having received less than my fair share of the wedding planning genes, i’m kinda stumbling with my progress for my may 31st wedding. i was very proud of myself when i realised what a ‘theme’ was finally. now i want one. i think. anyway, that’s not the point of this.
despite my lack of natural abilities, i’ve also got some built-in tough quesitons. i’ll try to be coherent & maybe even concise.
i live in france. i’m marrying a french guy, but since our whole life is here, we’re getting married here. so, for my family and most of my friends, this means a big trip. i’m doing ok on the logistics — i’ve found and reserved a variety of places for people to stay, they’re all profiled on our wedding website, and people will just tell me where & when they would prefer to be, and i will wave my hands around and hopefully it’ll all work out.
but this theme thing: for my half, i could be all creative with little eiffel towers or flags or passport-y looking seating cards, or airplane luggage tags, and voila! the theme’s travel or france. and everyone drinks loads of wine and goes home happy. but more than half of the guests (grrrr.) are frenchies. we chose a site for the wedding where everyone has to travel (although the frenchies can come by car of course) to try and even the playing field. but the "travel" theme for them would be a bit of a stretch.
how can i reconcile having 2 distinct categories of guests for this? does anyone have any ideas? i could seriously use any help.
thanks so much!
Post # 3
"…and i will wave my hands around and hopefully it’ll all work out."
Teehee, this made me giggle!
I am so envious that you are getting married in France and I am sure it will be a spectacular trip for your friends and family. What if, instead of just having a "Frenchy French" theme, you make the theme more about combining both of your cultures? Combining things that are synonymous with classic American charm with those of the lovely French lifestyle? I don’t have complete specifics in mind, but depending on where you’re from in the US, you could work pieces of that into your wedding. (For example, I am from Philadelphia, so I could name 1/2 the table names based on Philly sites and 1/2 based on French sites…. sit the Frenchies at the Philly tables, and vice versa, and everyone is learning about each other and about you as a couple in the process. Maybe put little descriptions of each location at your place settings.)
Maybe you could focus more of the travel/welcome to France thing on welcome bags for your guests coming from the US, so they’re still taking home a piece of France with them.
Post # 4
hee hee, yeah, the hand-waving is sort of my specialty.
thanks for your comments & ideas. i think you’re right on with the idea of treating the americans to cool welcome bags with typically french stuff. (i may have to do this on the sly — i mentioned it to mr.froggie and he said something like "yeah, we can give them tips on what to buy." snort. it’s not that he’s stingy, but we are paying for all of this ourselves, and honestly, outside of paris, the frenchies don’t do weddings on the same scale as in the states. so i’m sure he thinks the idea of welcome bags is silly.)
and i think the idea of combining the two cultures is also terrific. i asked mr.froggie what he thinks some things "synonymous with classic American charm" could be (don’t worry, i’ll try to come up with some too!), but if you’ve got any other ideas or if anyone else does, please feel free!
thanks so much.
Post # 5
I’m struggling with this too – that’s why we chose a theme that’s distinctly regional but will still work with our Spanish guests (sunflowers). Have you thought about just doing the France-y stuff for the Americans and just scaling everything down for the French guests? You should check out the knottie bio of BurgundyBride, she had her wedding in Paris too…
Post # 6
Actually my first impression when reading your dilemma is that it isn’t a dilemma at all, or at least I wouldn’t have thought so. You don’t have to give up a travel theme for your wedding just because some of your guests didn’t have to travel far to get there. Just say you picked that because you and your fiance love to (or hope to) travel lots so it’s a reflection of your personalities!
Post # 7
You don’t have to give up on the travel theme or you can even highlight some trait of France as your theme
My friend Sarita is getting married in Spain to a Spaniard and her family is traveling across the pond while his can walk to the church. She is going all out with Spanish style and using sunflowers as her theme since there are fields of them in her region.
Look at her knot bio and blog (http://sunflowercelebrations.blogspot.com/). She is really helpful and may have some suggestions. Ha, ha, and I just realized that she posted shortly above this.
And definitely look at BurgundyBride’s bio. The bio=awesome. I don’t know where her married pics are posted, but check those out too because her photog did a great job.