Post # 1
We are having an iPod/sound system set up for the dancing after the reception because our venue can’t allow a DJ or band (due to noise and space constraints) so we asked everyone to send song requests if they have any. My friends, being my friends, have sent me a huge list but half of them are songs raunchy or slightly to highly inappropriate songs like S&M, Little Bad Girl, Bad Romance… I mean, S&M and Little Bad Girl are obviously raunchy and inappropriate, but even the lyrics to Bad Romance would make me kind of uncomfortable.
Half of the guest list will be my fiance and my family. While they are fun people, there will be lots of aunts and uncles as well as small children there. I don’t want parents to have to explain to their kids what S&M is!
I’ve had a suggestion from another online forum to play the raunchy stuff after midnight, but because this is a secluded lodge in the mountains with other guests staying in the lodge, our entertainment has to end at midnight. The other things is looking at the rooms list, about 90% of our guest list will be staying at the lodge so I doubt the family (even with children) will leave until the end.
What did you do at your wedding? Should I exclude the inappropriate songs and try to find fun songs that are appropriate for everyone? The last thing I want is for the lodge staff or (even worse) family talking about how inappropriate some of the songs were at the wedding…
Post # 3
Just leave out the naughty ones. Seriously. I find it odd your friends wouldrequest those.
Post # 4
@corals: All of the things you mentioned are songs that are reguarly played on any pop radio station. You might be over thinking it.
Post # 5
I would find songs that are family friendly…there are plenty!
Post # 6
Most DJ’s would play top 20 or top 40 at your reception if you were to have one. Unless this is people’s first wedding, I think they’ll probably be expecting the top 40 songs and couple’s requests. I don’t think it is as big as you feel it is. I understand completely wanting to please anyone. But after speaking to dj’s & going to other weddings, the top 40 songs is what I’ve heard is the most common. Wait for everyone to send in their requests, make a list, weed out the most “risque” ones. 99% of the people coming to our reception are people who we see all the time so fortunately we know everyone’s tastes.
Post # 7
After discussing with my fiance and friends who saw (and were also slightly appalled at) the song request list, I think we will definitely filter the raunchy songs out. It’s just not us at all to play songs like these at our wedding (Fiance and I are a relatively quiet couple). I definitely wasn’t asking just because family and small children will be there–I think I would cringe if I heard S&M being played at a wedding, regardless of the venue and guest list…just too inappropriate in my opinion (but very appropriate for, say, a club). Fiance says it’s our wedding and not theirs, so we will play whatever we feel is appropriate.
Post # 8
I would play more appropriate wedding music.