(Closed) HELP! reception problems (etiquette)

posted 13 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee

I don’t think it would be a problem to have both events on the same day.  I would send an invitation for the big reception to everyone, and include a ceremony invitation as an insert for the people invited to that part of the day.  That way, you don’t need any special wording, etc.

If you’re consistent with whom you invite (i.e. only aunts/uncles, only aunts/uncles/first cousins, etc…), no one should be offended.

Good Luck.  Happy PLanning!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

if thats the case, why can’t you just have the private ceremony and then send out separate reception only invites to the rest?  I don’t get having 2 receptions in one day.  You could do it all in one and at least save some money.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

wait – how are you going to do a wedding in NC and then another event in Chicago in the same weekend?  Does he want to invite everyone to NC now?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2021

I agree with Dream that it doesn’t make any sense to do both of the same day. How is it even possible to do a reception in Chicago on the same day as a wedding in NC? I’m lost.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2021

Then why don’t you just have a big wedding to begin with? What part are you trying to keep private?

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think it’s a problem wanting to have a small ceremony.  If you’re too worried about it, have in-laws and wedding party spread the word that you two are looking to have a very intimate ceremony, but would love if they could come celebrate with you at the reception.  (There’s free food!) 

The only situation similar to this that I think is kind of rude is invitation to the ceremony but not the reception.  I think the only time I’ve seen this though was my 4th grade teacher who was kind enough to invite her students to the ceremony, but understandably didn’t want to feed them all (and parents) at the reception.

 Anyway, do it your way, have parents and wedding party smooth over any hurt feelings that may arise, and most people are very understanding. 

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