(Closed) HELP!!! Reception question

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

ordinarily it would be fine, if they could just go home and eat, but since they have to travel a little i would offer more food. Maybe just heavy finger foods?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Feed them the day of instead of the day before.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I say heavy hors d’oeuvres, especially if they are traveling.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think because they are traveling so far, I would offer them more than cake and punch personally. There is no etiquette around it (in fact, cake and punch is the traditional thing in the old days), but it might be more courtesy to do so.

Also, you can choose to serve lunch, which may be cheaper. Have them eat before the ceremony, and have cake and punch afterwards.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If your reception is at a meal time, then yes cake and punch is rude.  You’re reception is your thank you to your guests for coming to your wedding and celebrating with you. So you are correct it is rude if you are getting married around lunch time or dinner time.

Also, if you go out to dinner, make sure you don’t formally invite them to dinner when you guys expect them to pay.  Just be like, “Hey we’re going here for dinner, if you care to join!”  That way they know it isn’t something you’re hosting, i.e, paying for.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I personally agree with you that it’d be better to provide the guests with dinner–even something really simple like pasta, or whatever.  But if that’s totally out of the question, then I think that’s ok, too–as long as you’re very clear about their being no dinner served when you invite people, so that they know exactly what they’re getting into. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m confused, are you not going to feed them anything after the wedding?  Only the night before?  Or are you asking if you need to feed them all the night before in addition to the reception after the wedding?

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