- 8 years ago
We are getting married about an hour and a half from home, and our wedding party along with close family are driving up the night before for the rehearsal. The plan is to have dinner right after, and then everyone will stay that night in the hotel as well (rather than drive back home just to turn around and come nack the next day). I was discussing the rehearsal dinner with Fiance and his mom today, and they seemed to think it would be fine to “only” pay for the specific wedding party members. The problem I see with this is that since it is a semi-destination wedding, our wedding party will be coming up with guests – like boyfriends, husbands, kids, etc…since the majority of our wedding party is later 20’s, early 30’s. Obviously, they all have to be invited – otherwise might be kinda awkward to have family of the wedding party wandering the halls while we eat lol. My real question is how to handle this financially – are we responsible for everyone’s significant others and their children? For example, one of my BM’s is dating a guy who has 3 kids. That weekend happens to be his weekend to have his kids, so they are most likely coming to the wedding and will therefore be at the rehearsal (I don’t want to have to ask people to drive up separate from their families, etc…). I have never even met these kids, and when you count my BM’s kids that will be 5 extra people to feed who are not technically weding party. FI’s family is already on a shoestring budget, so we would most likely be footing the bill. If we are not financially responsible, how in the world do we make this clear in a tactful way?? Help!!