(Closed) Help! RSVP’s!

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2603 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Very traditional etiquette says that guests are supposed to respond, by mail, on their own stationery with their own stamps. 


That’s kind of old etiquette and since the custom has been to include the RSVP card for a while, people may not KNOW that’s the traditional etiquette and get confused. Or they may assume they don’t have to RSVP! So I think that these days, you need some sort of system. 

I don’t really see the reason why calling would be rude, except that I suppose that you might be forcing guests to have a conversation about coming/not coming and that could lead to them feeling compelled to explain why they can’t come or something. If you don’t want to do RSVP cards, then your next best bet is to ask for guests to email you back–most people actually like this option. The exception would be your non-tech-savvy guests, usually grandmothers and that kind of thing. In that event, you might want to offer your phone number to call as well OR, if you can figure out who would be unlikely to do email, just pay for the RSVPs for those select few. 


Good luck!

Post # 4
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have had lots of RSVP dilemma’s from only providing phone number and an email address on my original invites. I HIGHLY recommend a wedding website (http://www.mywedding.com is very good) AND and RSVP cards, to cover all your bases. Set up your website and put the address on your invites and you can also add a simple peice of paper for RSVP’s. I bought some card & envelopes from the dollar shop, self addressed the envelope (minus the stamp) and pasted a peice of paper into the card with the following

Please go to our wedding website and follow the RSVP link. There you will find all of our wedding plans, maps and eventually our wedding photos


 Alternatively, please return the response card by post to

28 bartholemew st, springfield LUV , 0607 

Dinner is from 6pm at Aesops Greek Restaurant in Sydney with pre-drinks at the botanic gardens from 4pm. Bad weather pre-drinks will be at Quay Bar on Alfred Street, Circular Quay. Please call Janice on the day on ******* for location confirmation. Special dietary requirements can be communicated with your waiter on the night. Unfortunately, if we do not receive an RSVP before we leave Australia on 16 June, you will not be catered for at our reception on 21 July. We appreciate if you can please let us know if you are unable to attend

Please cross out the incorrect answer and place the names of all guests on the line provided

  We’d love to come


 Sorry, we can’t make it


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