(Closed) Help! Same ring!?!

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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2733 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I usually am against telling your Fiance you want a different ring but in this instance, it’s totally acceptable and he’d probably PREFER you get a different ring once he hears the back story. He absolutely won’t want you wearing a ring that looks exactly like the one your ex got you.

Post # 17
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1288 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

I would exchange it. I was engaged for a short time in high shool (long story, stupid teenager romance) and even though I have talked and talked about the ring I want with my SO (comepletely different in every way, and much more to my taste), if he got me anything similar to the one I had back then I would be MORTIFIED and honestly I would be happy to buy myself one instead if it came to it.

Post # 19
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333 posts
Helper bee

ElephantAndTheFlea:  I had a similar situation with a dumb high school engagement.  My ring tastes changed because of it 

Post # 20
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1288 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

AubreyMarie:  same! I have adult tastes now, and my taste in rings reflects that, the one I got totally screams costume jewelry (which it was, turns out) to me now

Post # 21
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7898 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think it’s reasonable to have an e-ring that reminds you of your Fiance rather than your abusive ex. It goes beyond simply not liking the ring. I agree with talking with your new Fiance about it. 

Post # 22
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353 posts
Helper bee

Tell him. You must be honest with him if you’re going to marry him.

Post # 24
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223 posts
Helper bee

This is actually the one case, (aside from allergy to the metal or what not), that asking about changing the ring can be justified. 

Talk to your Fiance calmly and honestly about the issue. He loves you, so obviously he would want you to leave the sorrows of the past behind and start fresh with him. I am sure that together, you’ll be able to figure something out.

ETA: Oops. For some reason, the board didn’t refresh correctly, and I wasn’t able to see that you had spoken to him. So glad it worked out!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  mrshesstobe.
  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  mrshesstobe.

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