- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Is anyone having serious dress remorse?
I feel like I got pressured into my dress by time.. I waited too long to dress shop (I had no idea dresses take 5-6 months to come in! eek!) and had to make a decision right away. The dress isn’t anything like I envisioned for my wedding – it’s a really poofy princess type dress (which sometimes I think are really pretty, but I don’t know about this one) and I envisioned more fitting and traditional. I just don’t know if I even think it’s pretty… I felt really skinny in it and it had a lot of beading on the bodis so I did think it was really pretty but I just don’t know if it’s the right dress. I was hesitant even in the shop and when I was buying it, but I just felt like I had no more time to look. The dress kind of makes me look like a Disney Princess and I just don’t want to look that way. I want to be able to still love my dress in pictures 10-20 years later and not say, “What was I thinking!” Maybe I need to just go try it on again to find the love I had for it again. I only took 1 friend to shop with me and she really liked it.. but she really liked all of the dresses I tried on at other shops too with the same type of enthusiasm. I had already tried on 15-20 dresses before since we went to 3 other places and it was just the best one I guess.
Should I go to another bridal shop and see if I find something else I love? There was a shop I really wanted to go to that carried such pretty dresses from designers I like, but it was closed the day I went shopping. My dress I bought was almost $4,000 and I already put a non-refundable half down (almost $2,000) so it’ll be quite the expense if I buy another dress.. plus I’d have to pay to rush order it. But I’m thinking that if I don’t love anything else at the bridal shop I really wanted to go to, then maybe I’ll realize that really is the best dress? There was just one shop in town I really wanted to go to and I don’t want to always wonder if ‘my dress’ was there. It’s a bummer too because I probably would’ve loved super fitted dresses when I was shopping but I gained a quick 15 pounds in like 2 months over the summer because of lack of activity (I’m a teacher) so I figure I’ll be back down those 15 pounds as soon as the school year starts again so I feel like I bought a dress to accommodate the tummy I all of a sudden got. Ahh I’m just so confused!
HELP!! What should I do? I would love for you to comment with advice as I feel like I stress about it every day and it’s just like – what’s the point of paying all this money for the wedding photography and videography if I’m going to hate the way I look in a dress? I’ll put a poll but I’d love your comments as well! Thank you so much!