- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
Hi all, I wasn’t sure where to post this as it is connected to a multitude of subjects, so I just thought I would post it here. I am doing better healthwise, mostly staying on top of university this time around, and I am enjoying being back and actually working towards something again rather than sitting at home. So my psychologist said for my ‘homework’ I should set a list of goals I want to achieve by my 24th birthday (6 months away) and break them down into simpler, more realistic and achievable goals. Make a plan basically.
I love doing things like this, I am very good at making plans, the problem is the realistic and achievable part, and following through. Which is why I am turning to you bees, particularly for my weight/physical health goal. I have been using junk food to make myself feel better since I was 12/13 years old and it has fast become a habit, probably more of an addiction. I have tried quitting cold turkey, tried cutting back, and while I don’t eat as much every day as I used to, I still eat a lot. I gained a lot of weight a couple of years ago due to a medication, but haven’t lost any because of my habits. I am now at 83kg (183lbs) and 164cm (5’4″), which is obese according to my BMI. I am terrible at doing exercise, except for walking to classes or walking around the shopping centres. So I need help setting a realistic weight loss/health goal for my birthday. I don’t want to make it so difficult it is unachievable! What aim should I set for myself? I know I should cut out the junk food, but it is much easier said than done.
Also another goal is returning to work. My parents suggest waiting until this semester is over (finishes early June) before worrying about it, so I don’t over burden myself. But I am currently financially dependent on my parents for necessities (transport costs, necessary groceries – not junk food, internet, textbooks, medical bills) and financially dependent on FI for everything else (I borrow from him for phone credit, presents for others, junk food, etc) and honestly I am sick of it. I hate having to depend on them, and I want to see the amount I owe (not personal loans or anything like that, I don’t have credit cards either) decrease, not keep increasing. So basically I need to get a job, the online surveys I occasionally do rarely pay out, and I have run out of stuff to sell on eBay. So I guess I am looking for advice on when and how I should start looking for work again, it has been a long time since I last had a job (nearly a year).
And I want to start learning how to drive again. I have had to renew my learner’s licence about 4 years ago because I had let it lapse. Then I did about 20 hours driving, which will no longer count for my requisite 100 hours as it was over 3 years ago. My learner’s has been expired now for over a year, but I want to renew it. My father said he and my mum might pay for the renewal again ($170). Which would be good but he wants me to focus on university and then a job and once I have been working for a while turn my attention to driving. Problem is, if I don’t worry about work this semester all I have to do during the week is university and I have so much spare time (although I manage to fill it up quite easily with TV, Weddingbee, other sites and reading) I want to find something else to work towards. Or should I borrow the money from FI for the renewal and somehow convince my Dad to take me driving or ask FMIL to take me driving?
Thank you for anyone who got through this, any advice is appreciated!