(Closed) Help settle a silly etiquette debate (not really wedding related)…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would totally use a gift card to buy someone elses gift! Why not? Though I would never re-gift the actual gift card (which someone actually did for our wedding…)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I would use it too!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@TinyTina: I never heard of such a thing.  You can buy whatever you want with a card that was gifted to you.  Why not? lol

 

@PitBulLover: Okay, tacky but at least you got a gift:)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I have done that, I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Totally fine! I wouldn’t consider that “regifting”. It’s like someone giving you money.

 

In fact, according to this article (http://www.chesapeakelifemag.com/index.php/cl/features_article/the_art_of_regifting/ ) even Miss Manners now condones regifting!

It’s official: Judith Martin, aka Miss Manners, has deemed the practice of regifting acceptable. She writes in the latest edition of Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior that if you receive a present that isn’t quite right, “the present does not have to be used or displayed…This leaves room for returning, donating to charity and regifting, none of which is rude if the rule is strictly observed about protecting the donor from knowing.”

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@PitBulLover: oooh how did you know it was regifted? Was it like the leftovers –  $23.17?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wholeheartedly believe in re-gifting.   That said If I hated a gift and thought it was ugly I wouldn’t give it to someone I cared about.  For example someone gives me a nice X for my birthday, but I already have the same thing.  I can’t ask for a receipt, so I box it up and give it to my friend Jane Doe, who I know wants one.  What’s wrong with that?  Not like I used it or anything.

I almost wish we wouldn’t feel the need to give so many gifts to people all the time.  I get so much stuff I never use.  I can’t tell you how many items of clothing I’ve donated to salvation army that still had tags on it. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@KitKatNYC: No it was the SHop Card from Crate and Barrel which is actually what you receive when you return something for store credit. We knew it because we had already returned several things there. It was pretty tacky actually and I cant even say we at least got a gift. We received it from one of DHs groomsmen whom we had 5 months earlier spent over $3000 to attend their wedding. They actually didnt pay anything for ours since they stayed with his parents and they paid for the room. It was sooo tacky!

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont see the big deal.. its the same as cash really..

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@PitBulLover: So they basically regifted one of their unwanted wedding gifts to you in the form of store credit? It’s hard to think “it’s the thought that counts” when obviously little thought or care was put into it 🙁

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only challenge I would have is what to tell the original giver of the gift card to me.

“Thanks for the gift card. I used it to purchase a birthday gift for my Dad”?

I always send a thank-you note for a gift card right after Christmas and tell them I will let them know what I purchased with it later.  Clearly that’s not a habit for everyone here.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would totally use the gift card. There’s no way anyone would know the difference.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would use it…I agree its like cash

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