(Closed) Help settle this attire ‘argument’ with my fiance! (little long)

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Should his shirt be ivory?
    Yes, his shirt should match your ivory gown. : (13 votes)
    18 %
    No, an ivory gown with a white groom's shirt is just fine! : (39 votes)
    54 %
    A white shirt is fine, but the one he chose is too plain : (6 votes)
    8 %
    Back off, biotch. The shirt you chose is fugly! : (14 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    722 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t think you need to match. I think that an ivory shirt just isn’t as crisp as a white- I really prefer the one he picked.

    Post # 4
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think you should order him the shirt you picked out and give it to him as a gift. Tell him if he doesn’t like it, he can wear the one he picked out, but you will cry…

    I love your choice, and am not fond of his choice at all. It is a special day for both of you, so he should dress better than the “average” guy for your special day. Let the groomsmen wear the average guy shirts, but not him.

    Post # 5
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think the white and ivory so close together will clash. Has he seen the color of his shirt against your dress? Perhaps the visual would help him. I aggree with BlueShoes, that perhaps gifting him with the other shirt would be a good idea.

    Post # 7
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    I wore “diamond white” (somewhere between white and ivory) and Darling Husband wore a white shirt bc it looked better with his grey suit. I don’t think they *have* to match, you really can’t tell in the photos or anything. The argument over the embroidery etc is a different matter to me (I really like what you chose especially for a beach wedding, but I can see it’s not to everyone’s taste). Personally if your Fiance is really happy with what he has I think you should let him win this one – after all, it’s *his* outfit and he should feel good in it. How would you feel if you showed him your dress that you felt beautiful in and he told you it wasn’t the right colour, or fancy enough? I know I’d feel pretty sad…

    Post # 9
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I agree with Sapphire.
    A white shirt will make your dress look dingy in photos that you’re standing next to each other in.

    Post # 10
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’ve seen plenty of brides with ivory dresses and grooms in white shirts and I”ve NEVER noticed a difference in color, or thought that the bride’s dress looked “dingy” or “dirty”. I personally like the shirt he picked out better (no offense) and if he feels strongly about it, I would let it go. You have to pick your battles, lol..trust me, I’m letting my Fiance have his way on some smallish things because that way he goes along with me on bigger things (like the necessity of renting chiavari chairs…Tongue out)

    Post # 11
    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Personally, I think that when men’s shirts have detailing on them, they look more casual (like a t-shirt with lettering, to me, looks more casual than a plain t-shirt).  So I think that the shirt he bought is actually a little more formal and groom-y.  But I agree with you on the color – if he can find an off-white one it’ll look better.  That said, though, I think the ivory and white together will still look fine.

    I think it’s cute that your fiance really wants you to like his outfit and approve of it though!  Good groom behavior 🙂

    Post # 12
    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I like his pick better. That embroidery seems a bit dated to me for some reason.

    I don’t think his has to be ivory either – if he’s excited, let him enjoy it – think of how you’d feel if he reacted to your dress the same way you did about his shirt.

    Post # 13
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I recently attended a tropical wedding where the bride wore ivory and the groom, Groomsmen, and her father all wore white Brooks Brothers shirts, no jacket. It looked fine, I never even thought of the color difference. She left it up to him to pick his shirt and shirts for the men (she bought her father the same shirt too!). I don’t really like the colored embroidery on the shirt you choose, together with the linen, it makes me think of Renissance dress. I think his shirt will look good and make him happy!

    Post # 14
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    white and ivory photograph just fine together.  I personally like the plain white shirt without embroidery but I don’t think it’s horrible…just prefer the plain one.

    Post # 15
    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ve been to multiple weddings where the bride wore ivory, cream or champagne and the groom wore white and it never looked “off”.

    I think your guy made a choice that he loves & is comfortable in. You’re lucky to have a guy who is so enthused about helping make wedding decisions!

    Post # 16
    118 posts
    Blushing bee

    I agree with @MeghanV and @camrie that the dress he picked is a little more groom-y and formal. I personally think that his white shirt with the tan pants will look great with an ivory dress. (Post your dress so we can see them together!) I wouldn’t worry about your dress looking dingy or yucky.

    Besides, when you bought your dress, it was your choice to buy white, ivory, diamond white, champagne, etc. Now it’s his turn to choose his outfit. As long as he didn’t go crazy and buy like a tie dye suit or something, it really should be up to him. The shirt he did buy seems like a great classy choice and he seems happy about his decision. I would let it go.

    And as a side note: I would definitely not buy him the other shirt as a gift and make him wear it as @noritake22 suggested. I think that would be rude of you to not appreciate and respect his choices. And could you imagine if he did the same thing to you? If he bought you a new dress as a gift and guilted you into wearing it on your wedding day. Not cool. 

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