Post # 1
Long story short, I just got engaged 2 weeks ago and I have 2 ring settings. This is the ring that was proposed to me, picked by my future father in law. SO and I had picked out and already ordered a beautiful Verragio halo setting that I love.
This setting is SO sparkly and beautiful, but I just feel that the band is too thick for my finger. I’m a very petite gal and this ring is huge. The other one has a single row of diamond band, very delicate and feminine which I love. SO wants me to keep this one cuz his dad picked it. WHY on earth did he let his dad pick it in the first place is beyond me. SO is very filial so he didn’t want to disagree with his dad.
Anyhow, I appreciate any thoughts or comments that you may have in regards to my sticky situation.
Post # 3
@winnie47: Change it while it’s still early. I don’t get why he’d pick it, either!
Congrats on your engagement, by the way!
Post # 4
I think you should keep your current setting to wear on your other hand – you can put a gemstone in it – and get the Verragio you had already ordered and decided on with your Fiance. Why your Future Father-In-Law chose a setting for you is beyond me. Your FI’s father should by all means understand your decision. I wouldn’t want to look down at my engagement ring every day and think to myself “my husband’s father chose this”. JMO
Post # 5
I absolutely love that ring! It’s gorgeous!
Post # 6
While I do think the ring you have pictured is gorgeous, if it’s not the one you love, then you should change it.
If you and your Fiance had already picked out a setting you love, then you should use that one. I would sit down with your Fiance and tell him why you prefer the setting you both chose over the one you are currently wearing – I couldn’t imagine my FI-to-be making me wear a ring that is not the one we chose/loved.
Perhaps he feels it would be an insult to his father for you to change the setting from one he chose…just throwing ideas out there. If this is one of the reasons, you could always buy a coloured stone to place in the setting and wear it as a RHR.
Post # 7
you are absolutely right! That’s his reason, he thinks that changing it would hurt his dad’s feelings. I wouldn’t want that either. While it’s a beautiful ring, i just want something more delicate for my 5 foot body frame.
Post # 8
I think wearing FFIL’s setting as a RHR with a different stone, as I think a PP suggested, could be a good compromise.
Post # 9
I also agree with a PP- see if you can keep that one and put a different gemstone in it. Then explain how the huge one isn’t practical for every day use.
Post # 10
I love that ring and it looks amazing on your finger!! It also balances out your ginormous watch!!
Post # 11
First off welcome to the hive and congrats on your engagement. I think you should go with what your heart tells you. If you love one ring over the other then go with that one. Or keep both and make one into a right hand ring….the more rings the better lol
Post # 12
@winnie47: keep it it’s lovely!!!
Post # 13
I get what you’re saying, but you’re center stone looks 2+ carats which balances with the large setting. I think it looks great. You’d have to think about whether you want a wedding band or of you would wear the band on the other hand.
Post # 14
i actually love it…so i’d say keep it! =)
but then again, how will your wedding band be? will it make it all a tad too much once you wear it with your weddiing band?
Post # 15
Whats the verragio you got look like?
Post # 16
here is what the verragio looks like when we looked at it at the jeweler’s! To make matter worse, the setting just came back from Verragio and they screwed it up and it looked nothing like the one we wanted to customize.