(Closed) HELP! Should I have a DW with family and separate reception with friends later?

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Given the situation above, what would you do?
    Stick to a small ceremony/dinner in Hawaii with just close family members. : (0 votes)
    Have the wedding we can afford in DC/VA with our friends (and whoever from my family that is able) : (2 votes)
    15 %
    Family ceremony in Hawaii, reception in DC/VA : (11 votes)
    85 %
  • Post # 3
    23790 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @TFish:  I think it’s totally okay to do a family wedding in hawaii, and a separate reception with friends after the fact.  🙂

    Post # 4
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We’re kind of doing the opposite – we’ve invited our closest friends/family to fly to Hawaii with us for an intimate wedding ceremony and then, if in the budget, we’re going to come back to Colorado and have a reception (probably a casual BBQ) to which our extended family and friends will be invited.


    It’s a little heartbreaking that my grandmother cannot fly and will not be able to attend the ceremony but she will be able to attend the casual reception back home and we were overwhelmed attempting to coordinate a wedding in Colorado (surprising, right?).

    Post # 5
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @TFish:  We did it! We had an amazing, low-stress wedding with my mom and sister, surrounded by the ocean and sand, and then came back to a big party and a winery. It was great, because even after the excitement of the wedding, we had something else amazing to look forward to!

    Post # 6
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    That sounds great! Thank you for the feedback!

    Post # 7
    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    This is exactly what I want to do, a small DW, closest family there with me and then a big-ish reception once we get home. I would be heartbroken if I got married without my parents there due to something as  small (but pricey) as a plane ticket. Friends shouldn’t be hurt if they miss out on a ceremony they’ll just be happy to celebrate your big day with you in any form you want to, so I wouldn’t worry about that.  And yes ceremonys are nice, sweet, and beautiful but the best part of a wedding is the reception! At least for the majority of guests – and from personal experience. I really hope it works out for you because it does sound like the perfect plan.

    Post # 8
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I think your idea of having a small ceremony/dinner in Hawaii and then a reception in the DC area sounds great.  That is, if you can swing it financially.

    The DC “reception” doesn’t have to be a formal event, it could just be a casual party.  When I was searching for a venue for my wedding, I came across the Hendry House in Arlington, VA and I think it would be perfect for something like this!  The rental price is super resonalbe for the DC area (assuming you don’t go for a tent rental and just set the party up inside) and you can bring your own caterer and drinks.

    You’ll probably end up spending less that way.  The cost for a traditional reception in the DC area is crazy high.

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