Help! Should I Look Through His Phone?

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 61
Member
873 posts
Busy bee

wwydbees :  You got this, girl! And while it sucks now, just think about how much more it would suck if you were 5 years into marriage and had kids together or something. It’s better that you learned the truth now <3 

Keep watching those comedy shows and seeing your friends 🙂 You’re worth more than the lies he was feeding you. 

Post # 62
Member
768 posts
Busy bee

Wow he had the gall to put this on you! Trying to make it your fault that you don’t trust him and make it seem like you’re overreacting, while conveniently ignoring the fact that “this mess” wouldn’t have existed if he had the least bit of decency and respect for you, and there’s really nothing to be worked out, he’s the one that needs to take responsibility and live with the consequences of his own actions.

Sadly, I’m actually not surprised that some guys do this, one of my ex used similar manipulation tactics. But like you, I was way smarter / more rational than he could imagine and knew I deserved better.

I’m cheering for you! Let that anger be your strength to kick him out of your life for good and help you move forward! 

Don’t let anyone talk you into believing something else, you know the truth!

Post # 63
Member
517 posts
Busy bee

I love your stragegy about not telling him you have seen the messages. That really is a great way to keep yourself honest to the fact that he is CONTINUING to lie to you. It is brilliant!! If he doesn’t know what you have seen than you can see each lie for what it is because he has no idea what to cover up and what you already know. 

The fact that he tried to send you edited screen shots of their conversation should just confirm to you that he is a creep. He is still lying to you and he an awful person. Stay strong!! 

Post # 64
Member
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

Stay strong, bee! Take this time for yourself and indulge yourself in things you enjoy. Try to not let his texts get to you. Eat a pint of ice cream or put on a face mask. This is healing time for YOU. 

Post # 65
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019

i still text my ex, but my wife do know about it and i set the boundary

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