Post # 1
Hello fellow bees, I’ve been lurking here for quite a while to see if I could find a solution to my problem before making an account and posting, but I couldn’t find anything, so here I am!
I recently got engaged and I found that my ring is slightly too big. As of right now, I can literally shake it right off my finger. I’ve been wearing it on my middle finger because it fits perfect, and I’d be content with just leaving it there, but I’m left handed and the ring keeps getting knocked around while I’m doing simple tasks, such as turning a door knob. I’m already freaked with something happening to it as is, so I don’t want to add onto anymore of that stress.
The problem I’m facing is not unusual, and most would just get it resized. However, I have a very special engraving inside my ring, and I worry that if I resize it, then the “new” engraving will be shoddy. I can’t simply take it to the place it was made, because there isn’t a physical brick and mortar store, so I planned to take it to the local jeweler in my hometown while I’m home from college, but I have no idea if they’d be willing to resize it. There is a small area that isn’t engraved and doesn’t have any stones or anything, but it’s on the side, and from what I’ve heard and seen, the jewelers cut from the bottom of the shank in order to resize.
So bees, what should I do? I really just want to save all the trouble and wear it on my middle finger, even if it isn’t traditional. I think it looks more symmetrical. But I also want it to fit on my ring finger, as well as having the original engraving. Help!
Post # 2
Yeah, it is much too big if you can shake it off.
Resizing is done at the shank (bottom of ring). A substantial resize will likely affect the engraving. I would take it somewhere reputable where they will resize and re-engrave it as necessary. Even though the original vendor does not have a B&M I am not sure why you can’t send it back to them? Many people these days (myself included) buy rings online from vendors without storefronts; any vendor I have bought from has been willing to still do repairs and resizes if I send it back!
Or just wear it on your middle finger. People may not automatically associate it with a wedding or engagement ring, but all that matters is you are comfortable with it. You will get used to how you use your hand to avoid knocking it about in time. Besides even on your left ring finger you will still be left handed – in some regions it is custom to wear your ring on the right hand which you can certainly try out 🙂
Ultimately you have to choose between keeping as is and leaving on middle finger, or resizing and likely re-engraving (or at least touching it up). There is no middle when solution here, as even sizing beads etc will mess/lose the engraving. I guess you could try ring snuggies (the spiral ones are better than the split tube ones, IMO) but I think they are a bit of an annoyance and sort of unattractive (even if only when you show your palm) when it comes to daily wear fine jewelery.
Post # 3
If you don’t size it – what is your plan for wearing it with a wedding band? Both on your middle finger? I understand the worry of sending it away and the long wait (although regardless – through a local jeweller or online vendor it will take a few weeks). And I know you don’t want the inscription mangled – but a good jeweller should replace the engraving acceptably. What does your Fiancé think/suggest?
Post # 4
Get a nice slightly snug holder ring from somewhere cheap (a plain or twisty band will do) and wear that on the side nearest to your fingertip. Your ring size increases with things like age, pregnancy, weight gain etc. so if you don’t mind wearing the holder then don’t get it resized. The engraving will almost definitely be affected.
Post # 5
Ring noodle on Amazon. It is a little silicone piece that slips on the shank of your ring and adjust the sizing up to one side. I have used them they’re quite comfortable and very unnoticeable
Post # 6
Try silicone sealant? I’ve never used this myself but I’ve seen other people do it…maybe test on a cheaper ring first?
Post # 7
If you are in a cold climate, then I’d avoid a re-size right now. Fingers and go up quite a bit in summer, so I’d wait it out. Plus, it will be more snug once you add a wedding band. So, I’d be inclined to just add a few little bands to both sides of the ering for now. Once you select a wedding band and the weather is warm, then decide if you need to size it down. I wear a 1.5 mm silver band with set to be safe in the winter. If you are in a warm climate and it is too big, then make sure to select a wide wedding band and get a little band for the outside. You can also get speedbumps (@RayKay uses these) to take up some of the internal space. There are also ring-sizers that have a little spring on the inside that are really great if you have big knuckles.
Spring Ring Sizer (installed by a jeweller).
Post # 8
Horseshoe sizers and speed bumps, however, will ruin the original engraving (nor allow for the engraving to run around as it seems to do right now). I have had speed bumps added to a couple rings with markings/engravings and it did result in the markings being lost (and of course even if re-engraved again, now there are sizers and bumps in the way!)
A resize now at this time of year can still take into account that her finger may swell a bit with warmer weather, or she can make sure to get her finger sized in the morning when it is usually a little larger, or after it has warmed up from being outside (i.e. walk around store a while and let it warm up). I prefer to just size my rings for what my fingers are like “most of the time” rather than at their coldest or their warmest. Rings I have sized for my fingers at their warmest (in the middle of summer) tend to be WAY too loose when they are cold! And honestly, my hands are colder more often than warm.
I also however don’t size my rings for things like “what might happen” to my fingers one day. I know people who have spent decades dealing with bandaids, tape, ring snuggies and such because they were worried their fingers might one day get larger and it never, ever happened, even through pregnancies and weight gain. If I need to resize in the future, then so be it. My ring size has been static for the last ten years. My mother’s own ring size stayed the same over 35+ years, three children, weight gain, weight loss….only at the very end of her life did it change due to medications and fluid retention.
A lot depends here too on what OP sees as “slightly” too big. A ring that fits on my own middle finger would be 2+ full sizes too big for my ring finger, so things like stacking bands, or a wider wedding band, will still leave me with a too big, floppy, spinny ring that now is just more likely to grind against neighbouring bands. If her ring is maybe a 1/4-1/2 size off, then those are more likely to be workable solutions.
Honestly, OP is looking for the impossible solution here, as she can’t have it sized for both her ring finger AND preserve the original engraving, and she probably should just use ring snuggies if she does not want to change her ring at all but wants to wear it on her ring finger. I would find them annoying (and sort of unattractive) to use on fine jewelery for any lengthy period of time but in her case it would let her wear on either finger, and preserve the engraving.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel
I used to wear a ring cosy type thing which was a clear plastic tube which slid onto the back to make the ring tighter, something like that could work for you? Because in the future say have children,etc. Possibly put on weight you don’t want to have to resize it again
Post # 10
So I tried to write a reply last night and lost my whole post and was too frustrated to try again, so sorry about the late reply!
Thank you all so much for replying and throwing out suggestions! I was planning to purchase both a spiral ring snuggie and a 1.5 or even 1 mm band to put on top in case I really hated the snuggie, but after discussing what I should do with my Fiance, he told me that he prefers the ring on my middle finger as well. He wanted to get me a non traditional ring (he’s a very non traditional person) but chose this particular ring because it literally is my dream ring. By having it on my middle finger, it’s basically a compromise for a traditional ring in a non traditional place.
Funny enough, my Fiance got the ring size from this ring I wear on my right ring finger 24/7. I tried the shake test with it, and sure enough, the ring came flying off! I’ve never had an issue with it being too big though, as it’s my deceased grandmother’s ring, and actually loved it being slightly too large because I enjoy twisting it with my thumb. I noticed that my e ring is much lighter than my grandmothers ring, so maybe it’s the heft that kept it from slipping off?? That doesn’t seem to make sense, but it’s the only logical solution I can come up with.
Post # 11
Mine was just a hair too big and was spinning so we had sizing beads put in. I just picked it up and it fits perfectly now!
Post # 12
I’m guessing your older ring is wider? They usually say if you’re ordering a wide band to go up a size, because a wide band will feel tighter than a narrow one