(Closed) Help! Should I take the family stone?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would take it. If I were your mom I would want you to have it. it would give me pleasure to see it passed down through the generations.

And how about as an aside, you buy your mom something nice down the road. Some nice diamond studs or gold hoops. Then she can have some nice jewelry that you gave and you can wear the family diamond.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

This is something I can very easily see my mom doing. In fact, some pieces of jewelry that my sister and I currently own that were given as gifts my mom took the stones from pieces she had from my grandmother and gave them to us. Very selfless. I would take it if you know it would make your mom so happy. I don’t think she would’ve offered it if she didn’t truly want to see the joy it would bring you and then her by extension. 

Post # 5
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree that your mom would not offer if she did not *really* mean to offer.

I also think that it would be nice for you to buy your mother a nice piece of jewelry that she will wear.  You can present it to her at your rehearsal dinner as a “thanks for all your support” gift.  (But I’d start looking now, and probably buy earlier rather than later.  I waited to buy gifts for parents & attendants and I was kicking myself about not spacing them out better, they added up!)

Post # 7
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901 posts
Busy bee

Definitely accept it! It sounds like she’d be proud for you to have it.

And I agree, get your mama some REALLY nice jewelry with all the money you’ll save ;). Then she’ll have jewelry from you and love it to pieces, I’m sure.

Post # 9
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you want, tell us what was your grandpa’s birthstone?  Maybe put that as a new centerstone for the pendant!

Post # 10
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4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Accept it- this is a wonderful gift. Diamonds should be out on display, not tucked away in a jewelry box! And you might be able to find an estate setting for it- that’s what we did with mine (also a family diamond), and I feel that older stone plus older setting was the perfect combination- made it MY ring, versus someone else’s.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Take it! I also have a family heirloom diamond that my mom gave to my Fiance. It was my grandma’s aunt’s ring. My grandma got it when her aunt passed. My mom got it when my grandma passed. I also wear my grandma’s jewelry on a regular basis, and my mom is always so happy to see me wearing one of her pieces. So, while I also worried that her offer to give us the ring wasn’t whole hearted I decided that since seeing me wear all of my grandma’s other jewelry makes her so happy, it would also make her very happy to see me wear this special ring forever.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sorry….I didn’t realize this thread was so old.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@marilen:  I myself hate necklaces, and if I had a nice diamond, would love to have it set in a ring. And if my beloved daughter was going to wear it–extra fabulousness occurs!

Take it–if it is nice. Get a look-see at it before you commit. I entertained myself last night reading WB long chains of message from a couple of young women who had family gems forced on them. Ugly ones. You don’t want to go there.

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