HELP! Should I wear my hair up or down?

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
  • poll: Should I wear my hair up or down?



    Half up, half down

    Up for ceremony, down for reception


  • Post # 2
    2035 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    A hair trial is always, always worth the money. Even if you walk away with nothing chosen, you still get an idea with how different styles frame your face, and highlight important parts (ie, the GORGEOUS BACK OF YOUR DRESS OMG). 

    Why not have a sideswept style? That’s what I’m doing. 


    Post # 4
    690 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    Could you perhaps get your stylist to use those fancy little corkscrew hair pins and that way you can have it up for the ceremony so everyone sees the stunning detail on the back and then pull out a few pins and have softer down hair for the reception? Just an idea!

    This is what I am doing for my ceremony and reception. I have a similar ballgown dress with the buttons all down the back that I really want to be seen for the ceremony. But once the reception starts I want to have my long locks flowing freely. Look into those corkscrew bobby pins, I don’t know the specific name for them but they hold a TON of hair. Plus any stylist worth her money should be able to give you something you can take down or partially down.

    Post # 6
    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    I wore my hair down and I loved it! I always wear my hair down normally and wanted to feel like “me” on my day. I think if I had worn it up I would have felt awkward and over-exposed. If you aren’t feeling comfortable it will show in pictures. I did have it curled and styled and added a sparkly hairpiece to feel fancy. Pictures turned out great. 

    Post # 7
    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Bell Tower on 34th

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    chyangra :  I did my hair sideswept for my wedding and it was awesome!  It gave me the gorgeous length but kept it out of my face and out of my way!  The extra detail of the clip and the baby’s breath added so much fun.  Would definitely recommend!  I did a trial for my bridals and found that mostly down was just too hot – as it was June in Houston.

    Post # 8
    1097 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    I did up and I never wear my hair up and was worried about my forehead looking big too, but they swept some hair over the front of my face and I loved it! I’m so glad I had it up, because I got so hot!!!  Also I had a 12’ cathedral veil and it caused no issues with the style, your stylist will show you and a friend how to get it in and out to avoid damage and it was fine! I also loved that my hair looked pretty much perfect still at the end of the night, which if it had been down…. wouldn’t have happened.

    Post # 9
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    chyangra :  I think a gorgeous half updo would look great. Your gown is gorgeous and super regal.

    Post # 10
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

    I had a high pony and I loved it! 

    That was before the veil, and this is how it looked with the veil

    I wore a pretty comb so it didnt look plain for the party when I took off the veil


    Post # 11
    138 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

    Oh my god I had the same issue!!!!!! So I have my wedding in a couple weeks and I just have not decided on a hair style til recently. I did a trial where I did half up and half down and it was pretty ok to me but I felt like I had wanted either only up or only down. I wanted it up because of the same reason where my dress has a back I would like to show. But my hair has always looked way better down. My bridal party suggested up for ceremony and down for reception. my maid of honor came up with an idea to use the magic bun maker or something like it so that I could easily go from one hair style to another. However after doing so I just really realized updo does not look good on me. So I am doing what the other comments said – side sweeping it so that it could still be down but showing off some back.

    Try some trials with your hair. And go with what you think looks good on you! 

    Good luck. 

    Post # 12
    495 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2019

    I think I’m going to do half up half down for the ceremony, and take it all down for the reception. I never even considered wearing it down, but after it had been partially up for awhile during my trial, it looked amazing when it was taken down. Full of volume with soft waves. I loved how it looked more than any of the styles we tried! It will flatten out by the end of the reception I’m sure, but if it holds up for a couple of hours I’ll be happy.

    Post # 13
    660 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2021

    Either down or half up.  I know most people don’t feel this way, but I think pretty much everyone looks better with their hair down. 

    Post # 14
    3486 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    What is your wedding venue? I wore mine up to show off the back of my dress, and to make it last longer in the face of wind/humidity (outdoor ceremony and photos in summer). 

    Post # 15
    1640 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

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    chyangra :  I am in the same boat as you!!  My wedding is 2 weeks away and I still haven’t scheduled my hair and make up trial.  And when I DO schedule it,  I don’t know what I will ask for!  But I am thinking half up half down.  Up is so trendy right now, but I don’t think it will look right on me.  Your dress is beautiful!

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