Post # 1
My wedding is in 10 days, and I STILL haven’t decided how to wear my hair–ugh! I haven’t done a hair trial yet because I’m honestly not sure I can afford one. Background: I usually wear my hair down and natural. The main reason for this is because it’s easy, I don’t have to put thought into it, I don’t know how to do hair in general, and I don’t want to crease my hair with a hair-tie for daily wear. I only wear my hair in a ponytail when I’m working out or overheated.
Concerns about hair up: will accentuate my big forehead, won’t look “me,” veil will potentially pull down style, especially when I remove it (?)
Concerns for hair down: strands will get in my face, curls will be flat second half of day, longer hair will cover up detailing on back of dress, veil may not stay as easily (?)
My photographer said she has no clear cut recommendation but that I should be okay with hair not looking “perfect’ in pictures if I wear my hair down (she wore hers down for her own wedding but has GORGEOUS long locks). Anecdotally, it seems like most of my friends who have been married wore their hair up. As you can see in the picture below (excuse my sister’s teenage bedroom, lolz), my dress is a ball gown. I may or may not wear it with a hoop.
How did you/are you wearing your hair for your wedding? How did you decide? Based on the info, do you think I should go for up, down, or somewhere in between? One person I know started with her hair up, but then her stylist showed her Maid/Matron of Honor which bobby pins to remove after the ceremony to gracefully pull down hair. But I’m not sure I (or my stylist) can pull that off!
ETA: My fiance says he prefers my hair down and straightened/natural, but I’m pretty sure he said that because that’s just the way he’s used to seeing me. He did also say I will look beautiful no matter what, so I don’t know how much credence I should give his opinion.
Post # 2
A hair trial is always, always worth the money. Even if you walk away with nothing chosen, you still get an idea with how different styles frame your face, and highlight important parts (ie, the GORGEOUS BACK OF YOUR DRESS OMG).
Why not have a sideswept style? That’s what I’m doing.
Post # 3
I hadn’t even thought of that as an option! How gorgeous. Thank you for the rec! With all the thinking I’ve been doing about the hair, I’m starting to think I may regret not doing the trial!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
Could you perhaps get your stylist to use those fancy little corkscrew hair pins and that way you can have it up for the ceremony so everyone sees the stunning detail on the back and then pull out a few pins and have softer down hair for the reception? Just an idea!
This is what I am doing for my ceremony and reception. I have a similar ballgown dress with the buttons all down the back that I really want to be seen for the ceremony. But once the reception starts I want to have my long locks flowing freely. Look into those corkscrew bobby pins, I don’t know the specific name for them but they hold a TON of hair. Plus any stylist worth her money should be able to give you something you can take down or partially down.
Post # 5
I’m going to look into this. Thank you for the tip!!
Post # 6
I wore my hair down and I loved it! I always wear my hair down normally and wanted to feel like “me” on my day. I think if I had worn it up I would have felt awkward and over-exposed. If you aren’t feeling comfortable it will show in pictures. I did have it curled and styled and added a sparkly hairpiece to feel fancy. Pictures turned out great.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2016 - Bell Tower on 34th
I did my hair sideswept for my wedding and it was awesome! It gave me the gorgeous length but kept it out of my face and out of my way! The extra detail of the clip and the baby’s breath added so much fun. Would definitely recommend! I did a trial for my bridals and found that mostly down was just too hot – as it was June in Houston.
Post # 8
I did up and I never wear my hair up and was worried about my forehead looking big too, but they swept some hair over the front of my face and I loved it! I’m so glad I had it up, because I got so hot!!! Also I had a 12’ cathedral veil and it caused no issues with the style, your stylist will show you and a friend how to get it in and out to avoid damage and it was fine! I also loved that my hair looked pretty much perfect still at the end of the night, which if it had been down…. wouldn’t have happened.
Post # 9
I think a gorgeous half updo would look great. Your gown is gorgeous and super regal.
Post # 10
I had a high pony and I loved it!
That was before the veil, and this is how it looked with the veil
I wore a pretty comb so it didnt look plain for the party when I took off the veil
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
Oh my god I had the same issue!!!!!! So I have my wedding in a couple weeks and I just have not decided on a hair style til recently. I did a trial where I did half up and half down and it was pretty ok to me but I felt like I had wanted either only up or only down. I wanted it up because of the same reason where my dress has a back I would like to show. But my hair has always looked way better down. My bridal party suggested up for ceremony and down for reception. my maid of honor came up with an idea to use the magic bun maker or something like it so that I could easily go from one hair style to another. However after doing so I just really realized updo does not look good on me. So I am doing what the other comments said – side sweeping it so that it could still be down but showing off some back.
Try some trials with your hair. And go with what you think looks good on you!
Post # 12
I think I’m going to do half up half down for the ceremony, and take it all down for the reception. I never even considered wearing it down, but after it had been partially up for awhile during my trial, it looked amazing when it was taken down. Full of volume with soft waves. I loved how it looked more than any of the styles we tried! It will flatten out by the end of the reception I’m sure, but if it holds up for a couple of hours I’ll be happy.
Post # 13
Either down or half up. I know most people don’t feel this way, but I think pretty much everyone looks better with their hair down.
Post # 14
What is your wedding venue? I wore mine up to show off the back of my dress, and to make it last longer in the face of wind/humidity (outdoor ceremony and photos in summer).
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I am in the same boat as you!! My wedding is 2 weeks away and I still haven’t scheduled my hair and make up trial. And when I DO schedule it, I don’t know what I will ask for! But I am thinking half up half down. Up is so trendy right now, but I don’t think it will look right on me. Your dress is beautiful!