- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
My Maid/Matron of Honor is due in September, so we went to a wedding show this past weekend because it’s really the only time we figured it would work out. We live 3 hours apart, so I went to her. Over the course of the weekend we got talking about the shower and registry process because even though our wedding is over a year away, she wants to get ideas for what I envision for my shower.
We are having a destination wedding in Mexico, so frankly I hadn’t thought about showers or registries, because I feel their presence is enough of a gift. Fiance and I are living together, so we have most of the stuff we need and I don’t want to be greedy. We’re limiting invites to 20 people, but are having a reception in the summer after the wedding, where a lot of other friends and family will be in attendence. I thought it would be rude to have a shower knowing many on my invite list are invited to the reception but not the wedding. I’d hate for them to feel like I’m important enough for a gift but they’re not important enough for an invitation.
Upon talking with my Maid/Matron of Honor and my mother they both think that it would be unfair for me to not have a shower and set up a registry because people “expect” that with a wedding. They “expect” to have that woman bonding time, and celebrate with the bride. They both are on the same page where they think people will not be offended by a shower invitation, even though they are not coming to the “actual” wedding.
I guess what I need are more opinions on this. What do you see as being the proper protocol with a destination wedding?