- 3 years ago
I guess Im on here partly to vent but mostly to get advice from an external party.
My Mum has been really involved and helpful with Wedding & Engagement party planning. She has bought lots of stuff for us, offered to pay for the engagement party food etc which is lovely. But ever since all this planning started and she started buying us stuff (favours, signing pens, garter etc) she has been starting fights with me weekly because I am ‘not appreciative’. Now I really do appreciate it all but Im not really sure what else Im meant to do other than thank her over and over again.
Anyway, last night, my FI and I were at dinner at her place and he forgot to say thankyou for her offering to pay for the food for the engagement party. So she calls me this morning and it turns into this huge fight where she is now saying she will not be coming to the engagement party, that ‘usually the guy isnt this involved with the planning’, and she hopes I ‘have a good life with his family’. This is maybe slightly more extreme than usual, but still pretty standard for her.
Im just really really tired of fighting with her. I cant talk to her like a normal person because she just blows things way out of proportion and brings up all sorts of crap. When shes in fighting mode she cannot be talked too. Anything I possibly say to her – like – I really appreciate everything but you need to back off – or whatever, will definitely be taken offensively. When we fight she doesnt just abuse me either, she will take to facebook and write some status about it or comment on my page.
I guess my other main issue with this is how it makes me feel. Whenever this happens it really brings me down, I spend most of the day stressing about it and feeling depressed. I cant concentrate and I fear the next phone call or message. I really wish it didnt bother me so much or I wasnt so scared.
I’m getting to a point where I dont want an engagement party or wedding because I really cant handle the drama its causing between her and I. Luckily I dont live with her, but I just cant take much more.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.