- 9 years ago
Forgive me for registering just to bombard y’all with a question, but I have a legitimately engaged friend who loves this board, and after extensive, futile googling, this seemed like the best place to turn to for advice 🙂
(Sorry if this isn’t the right board for this topic)
I’m supposed to go to an engagement party for my boyfriend’s brother next week. His mom invited me and encouraged me to work out a conflict in my schedule, so I thought his parents wanted me to come. The party is a few hours away from where we live, so we need to stay in hotel the night of the party.
My boyfriend’s mom emailed him and told him she made reservations at a hotel for him and his brother. That made me a little nervous in and of itself, since I wasn’t mentioned in the email but bf said of course that meant I was included and his parents didn’t want to just come out and say that we could share a room together. We sleep in separate rooms when visiting his home, but they strike me as the type of people who would make an exception and allow us to share a room with double beds in a situation like this. They’re conservative, but not super conservative, if that makes sense. Maybe I’m wrong about that, though.
Apparently, yesterday bf found out that there really wasn’t a place for me to stay. He also mentioned something about his dad calling and telling him he should just book another room at a different hotel, but he wouldn’t give me any more details once he realized I was super uncomfortable hearing all this.
The other complication is that the hotel his mom picked is super fancy and expensive. It’s also sold out. It sounds like they’re scrambling to find another room (something about an extra room his aunt had reserved?), but I am so afraid they’re going to end up paying hundreds of dollars for me to have my own room. I really don’t want them to do that, but I also can’t afford to pay for it myself and would NEVER have chosen such an expensive hotel. I know sometimes it’s best not to worry about these things and just let parents pay if they can afford it, but if his dad is telling bf to get a different hotel, sounds like his dad doesn’t really want to pay for an extra room either?
Bf says his dad is just being stupid and he’s going to have his mom work it out. It just give me so much anxiety to imagine potential resentment his parents (or just his dad) will feel toward me if they do end up paying for an extra room. Bf, however, doesn’t think there’s a problem and doesn’t want to stay at a different hotel.
Does any of this make sense? Is it reasonable to feel uncomfortable about this? Any help/advice you have about how to handle the situation would be much appreciated!!!!