(Closed) help! Small wedding, almost all family, who can throw me a shower?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

No, you can’t throw yourself a shower. You’re not really supposed to hint to anyone about it either, they’re suppose to offer it on their own. I don’t see why your mom (or his) can’t host one if they offer. But basically, you get a shower if someone decides to throw one for you. If not, you don’t have one. Same with the bachelorette party.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

here is something to consider though. you said you really want a shower because you need stuff for when you move in together.  but remember that you can’t invite people to the shower that are not invited to the wedding….

as for who can throw it. i agree with the PP, you can’t throw your own.  i also agree that you can’t ask for one. but i think that depends on your relationship with your mom or close friends.  my sister is throwing my shower. i never had to ask her to, rather it was assumed she was. so i just told her when i wanted it. she did the same for her bridal shower 3 years ago and more recently for her baby shower! she even emailed a list of DOs and DONTs for her shower!  that’s just how it is in my family. we don’t beat around the bush with these things and its assumed we are doing it for each other.  

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

oh, and even if you are having a small wedding, you can still make a registry. with or without the shower.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do not throw yourself a shower… Even with a small guest list, it will come off as gift grabbing. It’s totally okay for your mom to throw you a shower if she’d like (my mom is throwing mine!). And yes, your SIL or Future Sister-In-Law can as well.

I also agree with @PurpleUnicorn shower or not, you can still have a registry! Some people decide to purchase items off the registry as a wedding gift instead of giving cash.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ditto. You can’t ask for one so hopefully someone will offer. Also, food can still be amazing even if it a buffet.

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