(Closed) help!!! small wedding…..can you invite friends to shower and not wedding??

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I think it’s ok if you have a no gift policy.  If you’re accpeting gifts, I find it slightly rude.

Generally, people have smaller weddings to save money/some people like a more intimate setting.  That’s totally acceptable, and I’m one of those people.  If that’s what you’re going for, I don’t understand why you would want a larger wedding shower- if these people are so important and you want them to share in your joy-why not invite them to the wedding?

Post # 17
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Wannabee

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missmck:  I’d love your invite template! 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

It’s a nono to ask them to come and give you presents.

BUT if you explain that you are having a small wedding and you have understanding friends, I would recommend saying “no gifts are required” and inviting everyone to a “high tea” style event – something where you can all look nice, eat well and enjoy each other’s company before you get married, maybe play some games

likely outcome is some will bring gifts anyway because they love you 🙂

Post # 19
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Wannabee

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aja0829 :  When invitations were sent out, did it imply that since it was a small wedding you wanted to ensure they were able to celebrate with her? I am planning a bridal shower for my best friend/cousin and her wedding is small. Meaning essentially our whole family is not coming…no aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. But I would love to include them in a celebration of her big day because we are a close family, funds just aren’t there. So, how/what did you send on invitations?

SN: They do not have a gift registry. So no gifts are expected.

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