- 9 years ago
Ok, I really need someone’s advice here. This is long, but PLEASE HELP.
Three weeks ago I was on my fiance’s case about doing renovations to our bedroom (that’s in my parent’s house, since that’s where we’ll be living after we’re married). He seemed really unwilling to help, but after I confronted him, he explained that he alwasy reacts this way and does the work anyway.
His initial unwillingness to help realy bothered me though and I got on his case once too many times. That evening, he didn’t call me at all after work and only when he was going to bed. Claimed he was running errands with his folks. I’ve given him silent treatment like this before, so it wasn’t surprising.
Fast forward two weeks later. Fiance said he’s going out for a buddy’s prewedding drinking/fun night, to a restaurant and maybe a strip bar. I hate strip bars and so he said he wouldn’t go. Later that night, he admitted that he did in fact go, but for a very short time, since they stayed at the restaurant for about 3-4 hrs eating and drinking.
One week later, he left his wallet at my house. I went through it (yes I know it’s wrong,,but I’m snoopy). I found a receipt from the restaurant. The bill was kinda confusing, it said "Party#: 2", which may mean it was for two people. On it were two pizzas and a bunch of shots and beers. The bill was printed about 2hrs earlier than he said he and the guys left the restaurant.
Now..I know he’s sometimes pay for his friends and they pay him back. I don’t know if I should take this bill as a sign of cheating…or what??? This bill also means he lied about the strip club, but I’m willing to overlook that, he never goes, and probably didn’t want to be a wimp with the guys.
A week later, he went out with friends after work for beers. Again, this was a 3-4hr outing, during which he didn’t call..he usually does. He’s also been more irritable lately Am I paranoid???
He also talked to me, that I’ve been on his case a bit too much lately. We worked it out, the calling is back to normal…but..I’m still bent out of shape.
I’ve been a nervous wreck since I found the restaurant billl. WHAT SHOULD I DO???