(Closed) Help! stranger at my personal shower….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You say… no. Just tell her that you are sorry, but that the bridal shower will include lingerie and possibly other adult oriented things and you don’t think it’s an appropriate place for a 14 year old.

Post # 4
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Maybe call her and tell her you don’t feel comfortable with a 14 year old in that kind of party. Text her asking if is true she’s planning to take her sister and then tell her this.

Post # 5
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Who is hosting your shower? Whoever it is must contact this friend directly by phone (do not text or email — too much is left to misinterpretation that way) and specify that the invitation was for her and her alone. Although it is understood the friend’s sister is in town, you carefully chose those you would invite and prefer to keep the party adult or to those that were invited. You are not obligated to have her there if you do not wish it, and it is your friend that is being rude in expecting you to agree to it. By the same token, your friend can then choose not to come if she’d rather cater to her sister that day instead. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. It is she that should feel awkward for imposing, not you.

Post # 8
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1278 posts
Bumble bee

Whoa, a personal shower with an unknown teenager?  I can honestly say that if I were the 14 year old, I would feel soooo strange being at a lingere shower with a bunch of unknown women!

Post # 9
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think her age makes it really easy for you to just say no, without having to feel bad. to be honesy I dont think the 14 yr old will really have fun either.

Post # 10
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563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

In the greater scheme of things, I wouldnt sweat it. She would be the one who is uncomfortable, not you.

Post # 11
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1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@SimplyChic11: I wouldn’t mind a 14 year old I didn’t know but maybe I am a bit crazy. If you mind then the host should address it.

Post # 12
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Captain013:Yeah I don’t think this would necessarily bother me either.

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