Post # 1
I just found out that one of my friends from school is letting her little sister tag along to my bridal shower since she’s in town. She wasn’t invited. And is like 14….
i’ve never met her. this is really awkward and I don’t want any stranger at my lingerie shower.
how do I handle this???
Post # 3
You say… no. Just tell her that you are sorry, but that the bridal shower will include lingerie and possibly other adult oriented things and you don’t think it’s an appropriate place for a 14 year old.
Post # 4
Maybe call her and tell her you don’t feel comfortable with a 14 year old in that kind of party. Text her asking if is true she’s planning to take her sister and then tell her this.
Post # 5
Who is hosting your shower? Whoever it is must contact this friend directly by phone (do not text or email — too much is left to misinterpretation that way) and specify that the invitation was for her and her alone. Although it is understood the friend’s sister is in town, you carefully chose those you would invite and prefer to keep the party adult or to those that were invited. You are not obligated to have her there if you do not wish it, and it is your friend that is being rude in expecting you to agree to it. By the same token, your friend can then choose not to come if she’d rather cater to her sister that day instead. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. It is she that should feel awkward for imposing, not you.
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Post # 7
agreed. Apparently she told my mom that her sister was in town, my mom had no idea how old she was and said she could tag along.
but you’re totally right, im leaving this up to my friend or mom to clarify since they are hosting. im nervous enough without having to worry who will be there i don’t know.
Post # 8
Whoa, a personal shower with an unknown teenager? I can honestly say that if I were the 14 year old, I would feel soooo strange being at a lingere shower with a bunch of unknown women!
Post # 9
I think her age makes it really easy for you to just say no, without having to feel bad. to be honesy I dont think the 14 yr old will really have fun either.
Post # 10
In the greater scheme of things, I wouldnt sweat it. She would be the one who is uncomfortable, not you.
Post # 11
@SimplyChic11: I wouldn’t mind a 14 year old I didn’t know but maybe I am a bit crazy. If you mind then the host should address it.
Post # 12
@Captain013:Yeah I don’t think this would necessarily bother me either.