Help.. stuck between a rock and a hard place in my engagement

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Sometimes it’s just better to cut your losses when there is any sort of abuse involved. I would make a plan and get out asap.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Honey, you need to break up with this ungrateful man child like yesterday.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

That was a lot to read, I skimmed over a lot of it. 

You got with him when he wasnt divorced yet and his wife was pregnant with his kids.

You haven’t had sex in a year and a half & when you did have sex it wasn’t good.

You added him to your bank account fully knowing he isn’t stable and comes and goes as he pleases.

How old are the 2 of you? I would think that you’re old enough not to put up with so much foolishness.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Take your money and go. He’s a piece of shit. Even in his apology email he’s insulting you! You deserve so much better.

Post # 6
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135 posts
Blushing bee

Dont give him any more money. Get a divorce. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

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timberly90 :  He doesn’t brush his teeth. That alone would be enough to send me running for the hills. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Holy crap didn’t finish reading because why would you still want to be with this man? He’s abusive and his hygiene is gross enough to leave. And get your money back!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

What the fuck, I had to stop reading halfway through because it had already turned into an absolute nightmare. 

 

RUN!!! Like, now. Literally right now. And if you ever for a split second regret it, read your entire post again. This sounds like a horror story, please take care of yourself. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

All I can think of is that you must have terribly low self-esteem. You couldn’t pay me to spend an hour with this guy and yet you spent 3 years? Bee, wake up and see that this man is gross and not worth your love. He is dragging you down and you will feel ridiculous that you wasted time with him if you ever get free of him. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

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strawberrysakura :  I agree, either that or she is really young and naive. 

Bee you should have left this guy a long time ago, he’s an over grown man child with a complete lack of basic hygiene who blames you for all of his problems. He badmouths you to his colleagues and family and is completely irresponsible with money. What do you see in this guy? He disgusts you, the sex is non existent and when you do have it it’s terrible, he ignores you, can’t even bring in a basic stable income yet decides to buy ridiculously expensive cars, runs to his mum every time he has a problem, I could go on but there’s no point.

You should have left him the second you discovered he didn’t tell you his ex was pregnant. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2020 - City, State

As the movie says… GET OUT!! I’m sorry but if your main battle is getting a grown man to shower and brush his teeth daily he has aLOT of work he needs to do on his own before he even thinks about being in a relationship. It also sounds like he may be struggling with depression which means he needs a kind of support that you simply cannot provide.  he needs some serious introspection and therapy and to really honestly acknowledge his role and behaviors within your relationship  

cut your losses and take it as a lesson. Love is just not enough in this situation. You put him first, he puts you last and even bad mouths you to others. Focus on your self and bettering you’re own life as an individual. If he can’t be bother to communicate with you or kiss you or be any kind of affectionate he clearly has checked out in a relationship. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee

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timberly90 :   He was a welder making $340 (mind you this is not after child support on two babies were taken out) a week

This statement has me really confused. I haven’t read the whole story yet but in the small town I live in… welders make close to that in 2 days. A full 40 hour week for one would be over $1200 easy. And, How does someone get financed to buy a $60,000 truck if they only make $17,000 a year? Something doesn’t seem to add up.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Break up with your son. Oops I mean boyfriend 

As a parting gift, u could give him a toothbrush 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

DTMFA

 

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