Help.. stuck between a rock and a hard place in my engagement

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2005

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Sansa85 :  so succinctly put it, this is a dumpster fire. Maybe even a landfill fire at this point. 

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timberly90 :  You need to love yourself enough to walk away. I would rather be alone and living with 50 cats than to be with that thing you call a boyfriend. Yuck….seriously basic hygiene is missing? Nasty, and you shouldnt want to sleep with that. Never, not the last man on the earth, ever. 

Post # 32
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Helper bee

I stopped reading at bad sex @ 3 months, and that he had contracted something from his ex.

that, coupled with mothering him? ugh just no no no. just get out. there’s enough drama in this story for 12 bad relationships. 

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

Does this dude bring anything positive to your life? This is a legitimate question. If the answer is “no”, like I suspect it is, there is no question what needs to happen here. If the answer is “yes”, ask yourself if the positives outweigh the negatives. 

What makes you feel like you deserve this trashy relationship? What is even likable about this person? Does he improve your quality of life? This relationship should have been over in the first 6 months, OP. Don’t waste any more time and energy on this suck-hole of a “relationship”.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa

It sounds to me like the two of your are not compatable.. you don’t like to kiss him, he doesn’t want to have sex with you.. intimiacy is a big part of a relationship.

And thats not counting all the other crap that he puts you through. Immediately take your money back and go no-contact. Don’t let him talk you back into a relationship. NO.

Post # 35
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Helper bee

How is leaving him a loss? He’s barely around, and when he is, he makes your life miserable. You are a better person without him. I know that love is hard to understand sometimes, but at no point should someone stay with someone who demeans you and lowers your self esteem in such a way. A relationship, a real partnership is meant to help each other.

Leave, now. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

I stopped reading after the 4th paragraph. You two aren’t compatible. Stop trying to force a relationship to happen with someone you don’t see eye to eye with. Your wasting your time. Oh and he is a gigantic asshole. Relationships that are right for both people aren’t this hard. I’m not sure why you kept committing to this man more and more when the relationship was getting worse and worse. You should have left when he revealed his ex wife was pregnant after hiding that from you. Learn from this, better yourself, and stop dating shitty people. 

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Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Bee, seriously. Have you read through your own initial post again? I think there you have your answer.

Normally I’m not one to jump to conclusion, but what you wrote was making me feel incomfortable and I just want you to leave all of this BS he’s giving you. I think you’re a very caring and sensitive person and you’re not someone to run away when the first difficulties show themselves. These are very noble characteristics in my opinion, but you have to show yourself some selfrespect and please stop to waste yourself on someone that is obviously not valueing you. What got me most, is that he is telling lies about you behind your back, because he is ashamed.

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