(Closed) HELP!! Thank You Cards???

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Some people will say yes, you should thank them for coming, nice to see you, etc, etc, etc.

I’m not going to. If you bring a gift/card I’ll print up enough Shutterfly thank you’s to send out. They’re personalized and adorable. But uh, I’m not gonna bother if I didn’t receive one from someone–if they send one later, sure. I figure I already bought them dinner and personally thanked them for coming at the reception.

Post # 4
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I believe that all people that showed up at the weddintg should receive a thank you card.  Some people go out o ftheir way to purchase a new outfit, some have to make arrangemenrts for sitters if children aren’t invited.  Some have to travel a ways to get there.  Also you should always show your appreceiation, whether or not you receive a gift from them at the wedding.  My wedding was March 29th, and I am sending thank you cards to all those that came to the wedding and I’m happy to be doing it.  Many of our guests flew in from out of state to come and I am so happy they were all there.

Post # 5
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I guess the technical answer is "No, you don’t HAVE to." As mentioned before me, it is polite to send off a Thank You to those attending. If that seems overwhelming or not what you choose to do, perhaps send Thank You’s to those that brought gifts, as well as those who traveled particularly far to be with you, as Chela429 suggested. I have individuals who are having to request leave from overseas military to join us… they are definitely getting major Thank Yous!


I know it’s a lot of work, but it is definitely an appreciated gesture. The cards don’t have to be fancy or handmade or even match! Do what my fiance and I did for Christmas cards… put on a favorite CD, and work on them together. Come up with a general format such as "Thank you so much for joining us on our big day!" and get to writing. They go pretty quickly when you get in the swing of things! And, you can use your guest list from the invites to print up address labels quickly and fuss-free!!!

Post # 6
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

After a lot of back and forth, I decided to only send them to people that brought cards/gifts. If people send a gift later, I will send a thank you card later.  Im in agreement with @ejs4y8.  I dont think purchasing a new outfit to wear warrents a thank you. 

Post # 7
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’d say if they travelled in from out of state or a good distance, send a thank you for attending. Their expenses do add up if it’s a flight, plus hotel, car rental, etc.

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