Post # 1
I’m 22 and I was supposed to graduate from college last spring. I will be graduating hopefully this fall. I just found out this fall that I have ADHD I have started therapy, for the fall semester which I did horrible like my other semesters and I’m starting medication this semester (which I’m terrified). I believe will help along with being enrolled in the student disability program. I need some strength to keep me going. I feel kind of bad about not graduating last spring and the fact that I’m the first to go off to college and the whole family is looking at me. I feel so stupid and like a failure, I just want to give up.
Are there any Bees out there who have adult ADHD that can help me out?
Post # 3
You are not a failure!! I don’t have ADHD, but I know lots of people go to college longer than 4 years to get their bachelors and there’s no shame in that. Especially since it was ADHD that was keeping you back!
Post # 4
@MrsVMT: I do not have ADHD but I want to encourage you. You think you feel bad now, imagine how you will feel to struggle for financial security/job because you do not have a degree. You need to pull yourself together and make it through these last few classes. It took me 4 years and 1 semester to graduate, I did not have a disorder, I was having fun! This will pass, you need to focus. Best of luck!
Post # 5
You are not stupid. You are not a failure. Take as long as you need to finish, but don’t give up!!!! Get all the help you can, to help with whatever issues you are facing. But don’t give up!!! It’s so worth it in the end and will be such an asset to you as you find employment the rest of your life. You can do it!!!
Post # 6
The fact that you go to college and have been for four plus years means you ARE succeeding. Far more people than you know (with no learning disabilities) take longer than four years to graduate. My poor little brother has ADHD or ADD, I forget which, and he went through nursing school in its entirety and failed the last semester and now is starting from the begining. Don’t let it get you down and you will get there one day.
Post # 7
the only way you’ll be a failure is if you give up.. finishing one or two semesters behind is no big deal – my brother has the same and is still trying to finish his bachelors, 10+ years later bc he refuses to acknowledge that he has a problem.
Post # 8
I had ADD, not ADHD, but I can understand. Really don’t feel bad. I’m in a similar boat. I’m 22 and was supposed to graduate last spring. However, I’ve still got 2 years left – I wish I was graduating in the fall!! In all honesty, most people (at least where I am) take 5 years to graduate anyways, so in that case you’re just one semester off which isn’t bad at all. You’re right on track!
Post # 9
I don’t have ADHD but I work with students who do. I know medication is scary but it really does work for some people, you may have to give it a little time and may have to work with your doctors on dosages or different kinds but it really can work. As far as getting through school, definitely hook up with the special education department at your school. They can help by proving things like help with notetaking, organizational skills, sometimes tutoring, it varies by school what they offer but they usually have some great services that can really help. The only other thing I can suggest is to make sure you write stuff down. Get a calendar, mark down important due dates for papers and tests, so you at least have a starting point for organizing your work and will have a visual reminder that important things are due.
Post # 10
I don’t have ADHD, however I’m in grad school going for a degree in School Psychology. For one of my classes, we work at an assessment center, conduct some tests on those who seek our assistance, and give recommendations and anything else that would be helpful.
This past semester, the girl I worked with was a 22 year old “super-senior” who was also considering dropping out of school. She has had a really difficult time with classes, primarily because of her ADHD (although there were some other things going on there). She’s been going through college without the supports she received in high school and it was becoming increasingly difficult to succeed.
The best thing you can do you’ve already done- get tested, get into therapy, and enrolling in the student disability program at your school. See if your college offers free workshops to help with study skills, time-management, report writing, etc. If workshops aren’t offered, check and see what other resources are available, such as peer tutoring.
You can totally do this! Make sure you’re getting the support you need in classes (reach out to your peers and professors) and at home.
Post # 11
DON’T! I am a college prof and I have had several ADHD, ADD students who have gone off to complete graduate degrees! You can and you should finish!
Post # 12
I am very grateful for all of you guys encouragement and tips. I really appreciate it I am going to keep this battle going just take it one step at a time. I feel a little down about school sometimes because I’m usually good at everything I do but school. I think that imperfection drive nuts because I’m so use to succeeding. All I can do is try and give it my best that is all that matters. I need to stop letting others put their expectations on me.
Thank you Bees XOXO
Post # 13
You are NOT a failure! I have Bipolar II, which drags ADHD type symptoms right along with it when I’m manic. When I’m depressed, there are days when I couldn’t even bring myself to get out of bed for weeks at a time. I did horrible in a lot of my classes and had to retake a good number of them. It frustrated me because my siblings – who are not Bipolar – always did well and it seemed to come to them so effortlessly. I couldn’t even get basic information to stick. I was on medication when I was 19 and first diagnosed, but I had a bad reaction and so I just quit. Recently, I started taking medication again – this time the way the doctor prescribed it – and I’m doing really, really well.
I know how easy to feel like you’re a failure, especially when things to come so easy to those around you. My sister has always been very supportive of me, and she gave me an incredible bit of motivational advice – it takes a lot of courage, maturity and strength of character to acknowledge your limitations and then push through them. I know that it is a struggle, but it /will/ get easier.
Post # 14
Hey, I have ADHD!!!! I’m an Engineer–so, yeah, it can be done. The thing is that most people with ADHD are often extremely bright, which helps them compensate for attention problems. Unfortunately, girls with ADHD usually aren’t diagnosed until later in life, so they’ve had many years of thinking themselves “stupid” and usually have low self-esteem. If you can afford it, have vocational, apptitude and IQ testing done–you’ll probably be astounded by how high some of your test scores are!
I was diagnosed in my last year of University and found medication and cognitive therapy to work on organization issues made a massive, night-and-day difference in my life. I mean HUGE. So don’t be afraid of the medication, but make sure you’re seeing a doctor who specializes in adult ADHD and not just a family doctor. There are a lot of tricks and issues with the meds that an MD probably won’t know. And read as much as you can about it–there are a million tricks you can use to make life easier for yourself.
The other REALLY important thing for ADHD people is to find a trade or profession they’re passionate about, because that makes learning easy for them. And also to avoid nit-picky, detail oriented professions. Many become cops, firefighters or soldiers because ADHD sufferers instinctively crave new experiences, novelty and excitement–all of these things help regulate and boost low dopamine levels in their brains. They also tend to self-medicate with nicotine and alcohol, which obviously isn’t good.
Getting a diagnosis is 75% of the battle, Hon. The next year is going to be so, SO much better for you!
Post # 15
you are not a failure i have it too and its hard but with a good doctor and support system you will do great good luck
Post # 16
I have ADHD and I have known it since I was 14 years old when I was first diagnosed. I will not/can not take any of the medications as I do not care for the side effects. I was re-evaluated a few years back and I am still considered severe. None-the-less, I earned all my degrees (under-graduate and graduate) in both biology and biochemistry, and I am now a college professor.
I STOPPED looking at ADHD as a disability quite some time ago. Some of the world’s greatest scientists and inventors are believed to have had ADD and ADHD – thank goodness they didn’t have medications back then! Maybe, just maybe, we are not all meant ot think the same way. IMO, the problem is not with how ADHD and ADD people deal with the world – it’s that the world has a problem handling US.
I have come to accept that my home and office will always be cluttered and that I will always tend to be “forgetful”. Thank goodness I have people in my life who accept me as I am and can appreciate my other fine qualities.
You can indeed finish your education, drop the mentality that you have a disability. Find what works for you when it comes to studying; learn to prioritize and don’t be so hard on yourself!!!