(Closed) Help /thoughts on my timeline?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mayflowerbride13:  No offense, but that sounds like a REALLY long day. Is there something guests can do for 3-4 hours in between? I know you can’t move the ceremony time but is there any reason it’s so early? You could do some family pictures before the ceremony and then the larger family pictures and couple pictures after, which wouldn’t take 2 hours! (unless there’s travel I’m unaware of). You also have 1.5 hours between soup and dinner. To be that’s a long time! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mayflowerbride13:  Ohh… 200 people… I guess that does make a difference, I’ve never been to a wedding that large! I think if they’ll be at the hotel where the reception will be and they’ll be stayign that’ll be fine. Maybe set up something in a common area where guests can congregate and hang out? A great way for the families and friends to meet. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Usually, you want to hold off on dancing and things until after dinner; but this isn’t an absolute necessity.  Also, why so long of a gap between the ceremony & reception? Do you have something for your guests to do in this time? 

Anything you want your guests to stick around for should happen before dessert.  Once the cake is served this is the unofficial cue toyour guests that if they want to leave it’s acceptable (older guests, or those with children, or a long drive home usually leave at this point).  

What usually works best for caterers is to have dinner served at whatever time, toasts immediately following (while most guest are still eating), then after dinner do the first parent/child, & money dances, giving the caterers a chance to clear all the place settings and things.  Then cut the cake & serve dessert afterward. 

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I wouldn’t worry about once the meal/reception starts because that will flow naturally, like I have no idea how long dinner will take but once dinner ends my DOC knows to que us for dances, cutting cake, etc.

As for before  the reception…

What are you doing from 1:30-2:00? and from 4:00-4:30?

If you’re not doing a first look I would do as many pictures (bridal party, bride with family, etc.) before the ceremony to cut down on that time.

Also, I think your cocktail hour is way too long, people are going to either start getting tipsy or bored.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I know you said you can’t change it, but I would do church at 3pm instead. You can do a first look or family photos beforehand, and your guests can immediately go to the cocktail hour.

And if you start earlier, you can cut out the late night buffet, which I believe from your other posts was a budget concern.

I would cut the cake later- doesn’t seem to make sense to feed each other cake right before you have your soup.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@rebwana:  Agreed about the cake cutting, I know it’s considered traditional, but it’s never made sense to me!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it mostly looks okay. I’ve been to weddings with a gap, so I guess the guests will have to find something to do.  I wouldn’t necessarily be bothered by it.

The dinner seems long to me.  I eat my soup at 6:30 but I have to wait  until 8 to finally eat my entree??

I also would cut the cake after dinner.  Unless you are putting this first because your photographer has to leave by then??

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why are you cutting the cake before dinner? You also definitely don’t need 45 minutes between each course, that is a REALLY long time and it’s hard as a guest to finish your salad in 5 minutes and then sit there forever waiting for the next piece. Even with 200 people it doesn’t take 200 people 45 minutes to eat a salad or soup. I wouldn’t keep the toasts going off and on either, just choose a time to do them and be done with it. People want to chat and enjoy their meal  not be interrupted all the time.

Also why is 3 pm for the ceremony cutting it “too close”? To me it would be a much better time but that’s my personal opinion.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

What’s the entertainment during cocktail hour? I’ve never heard of anything but music and drinks during cocktail hour.

We’re cutting the cake after dinner and to fill the time while it’s getting ready to be served we’ll be doing the first, father-daughter, and mother-son dances, immediately after which open dancing will start.

I’m trying not to sound like a jerk but you posted this asking for thoughts and seem unwilling to listen to everyone’s concerns.  Think of your guests, that is a LONG day.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Assuming you mean the reception venue, Your guests will have had since 1:30 to get into the room, that’s plenty of time!

Also, what’s the entertainment?  I want to hear ideas!

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