Post # 1
My fiance and I have been taking dance lessons since September, so that we could adequately dance at our wedding this August (just over 2 weeks away). The instructor offered to help us choreograph our first dance and has been helping us for the last 5 weeks.
Now bees, we’re having trouble deciding whether or not we should invite her to our reception. Is anyone having a dance instructor help them plan their first dance? Are they coming to your reception? Our instructor does not know anyone other than us, and we want to know what the general consensus is about inviting your dance instructor.
Thank you so much!
Post # 3
Are you paying for your lessons? If you are not paying, I might invite her just as a way to say thank-you. If you are paying her, it’s not necessary.
Post # 4
I would think this is a typical job for her. SHe probably does this for hundreds of engaged couples. I don’t think she’d expect it, unless you have become friends and do things together outside of the class….
Post # 5
Thanks for your feedback!
Yes, she is being paid. One of the reasons I ask is she was talking about another couple’s wedding that she choreographed a dance for, so I wasn’t sure whether it was some kind of universal expectation of dance instructors.
Post # 6
Don’t invite her for the reasons stated above, but I’d bet she’d like to see the video of the actual dance.
Post # 7
we hired someone, and didn’t invite him. Given how many first dances he helps with, I doubt he would want to go to that many weddings!! Unless you feel like she is a good friend beyond this, no need to invite her.
Post # 8
Well, I would look at it this way…. are you inviting your florist, and your baker? I’m sure they would like to see how things turn out too… whether people enjoy the cake? How the corsages look on the moms? Or possibly not.
As the bride (and groom) it’s obviously hugely important to us. To everybody else, it’s another job. Our dance instructor has dozens of students every month, and choreographs on average 2 – 3 "first dances" a month. I’m sure that she likes us, but that doesn’t mean that she wants to give up her saturday afternoon and evening, get dressed up, buy a present, and spend hours with people she doesn’t know just to see us dance. She asked us afterwards how it went – and was happy to hear that it turned out well.
Post # 9
He is a merchant, He is not a guest, unless you feel that he is now going to be a friend of yours for life…thank him and send a photo!
Post # 10
We had our first dance choreographed too (wedding is tomorrow!) — no we did not invite our dance instructor to the wedding. As stated above, dance instructors are service providers before the wedding. You aren’t inviting the lady who helped you buy your wedding dress, or who does your nails every week, are you?