Post # 1
So I’m having a dilemma . I can’decide if I should have bridesmaids or not. Fiance and I have been together for 11 years. Having a small wedding about 60 guest at a ballroom venue. For such a small wedding I think 6 bridesmaids is a bit much.
I have 2 sisters 3 bestfriend who are like sisters to me we have been a foursome all our lives since the age of 12 (we are 32 now) with one of them who would be my Maid/Matron of Honor we’ve been friends since kindergarten! Than I have my Fiance sister who I’m sure would feel bad for not being included since I’ve know her for 11 years and he was a part of her wedding.
I was thinking maybe not have any brides maid and just having my Maid/Matron of Honor and his best man walk. And have the rest of my girls wear corsages….
Having just siblings and not including the bffs.
Or just the bffs and not the siblings.
What to do? Any ideas ?
Post # 2
You don’t want the wedding party to outnumber the guests. Cut it down. The extra special people can do a reading, man the guest book or ( if they can) sing.
Post # 3
I would do either no wedding party or just a best man and Maid/Matron of Honor if you are concerned about size. Attending as a guest is also an honor.
But really you can do whatever you want. If you want to ask 6 people then ask them and have them all stand up with you. No one is going to care.
ETA: Please don’t make them do shitty jobs like manning the guest book or handing out programs. That’s zero fun and it’s not an honor. Let them enjoy the party as a guest if you don’t ask them to be in the wedding or do a reading.
Post # 4
I think just the MOH/Best Man sounds like a great idea.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre
For our wedding we just included our siblings. Family is really important to us
Post # 6
6 people isn’t too much. It doesn’t matter what it looks like, think of the people you will be making happy. Weddings are about love, friends and family, and being inclusive. You don’t want to look back at your wedding and think of hurt feelings from your friends. Plus your wedding pictures might look a bit sad to not have any bridesmaids in.
Post # 7
I had a similar problem. 8 bestie girls in our group plus an old friend. Wedding ceremony of 60. I went with no BMs and had one of my besties little girl (that I look after a lot) as a flower girl.
It worked really well.
A couple did speeches, one sang, another a reading, another two spontaneously planned my hen do abroad. And we had extra photos just us.
DH has two best best best pals. So he had two best men.
I got ready with my mum which she loved and she helped me with my dress etc
All worked really well.
Post # 8
I personally as a guest don’t keep track that so and so’s wedding had 9 bridesmaids but with only 77 guests. Or why did she only have 3 bridesmaids when there are 300 guests? Do it! These people are important to you and that’s all that matters.
Post # 9
6 people to 60 isnt that bad… thats 1 bridesmaid per 10 people which is probably the max but not crazy
you could also have people do different roles like ushers, readers, witnesses etc…
im having 3 bridesmaids for a wedding of 48 guests (+ 6 other wedding party members in other roles)
Post # 10
We’re doing the same size wedding (60 ish people) and decided to do just a Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. The other two ladies that I would have chosen are both pregnant right now. One would deliver about 1.5 months before the wedding and the other will deliver about 2 months after. I figured it would be easier for both of them to not have to stress about finding a dress/how would it fit at that particular moment, having the energy to do all the bridesmaids-y things during the wedding, etc. This way they can just enjoy it.
I have, however, been debating how I can include them. They’re both rather quiet/shy, so I’m not sure if they would want to do a reading or a speech during the toasts. We’ll see. I would like to take some extra photos with the girls I’m closest to, though.
Post # 11
We had an intimate wedding of family, grandparents and Godparents. We had the Bridesmaid or Best Man &MOH as our witnesses. Later on we had a large reception, where I asked my best girlfriends that would have been BMs to wear a certain color dress. Then we took lots of fun oictures and partied the night away. It was affordable for them, they bought dresses they would wear again, and they felt special. It was a win-win for us!
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front
We are also having a small wedding and so decided on just Maid/Matron of Honor, his best man along w his two kids standing up with us….all our other close friends will be in attendance.
Post # 13
We had a similar situation and chose to have a Best Man, two ushers and a Best Woman.
Post # 14
I had a wedding of about 80 and we had 7 on each side. I don’t think anyone thought it was weird, I loved having a big bridal party. The more the, merrier! 😉
Post # 15
I think you’re overthinking this. I’ve never been to a wedding where I thought there were too many people in the bridal party. If you want all these women as bridesmaids, go for it.