(Closed) HELP! Too many potential bridesmaids for a small wedding

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
403 posts
Helper bee

You don’t want the wedding party to outnumber the guests. Cut it down. The extra special people can do a reading, man the guest book or ( if they can) sing.

Post # 3
10319 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would do either no wedding party or just a best man and Maid/Matron of Honor if you are concerned about size. Attending as a guest is also an honor.

But really you can do whatever you want. If you want to ask 6 people then ask them and have them all stand up with you. No one is going to care.

ETA: Please don’t make them do shitty jobs like manning the guest book or handing out programs. That’s zero fun and it’s not an honor. Let them enjoy the party as a guest if you don’t ask them to be in the wedding or do a reading.

Post # 4
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

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tandn :  I think just the MOH/Best Man sounds like a great idea. 

Post # 5
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

For our wedding we just included our siblings. Family is really important to us

Post # 6
222 posts
Helper bee

6 people isn’t too much. It doesn’t matter what it looks like, think of the people you will be making happy. Weddings are about love, friends and family, and being inclusive. You don’t want to look back at your wedding and think of hurt feelings from your friends. Plus your wedding pictures might look a bit sad to not have any bridesmaids in.

Post # 7
6237 posts
Bee Keeper

I had a similar problem. 8 bestie girls in our group plus an old friend. Wedding ceremony of 60. I went with no BMs and had one of my besties little girl (that I look after a lot) as a flower girl. 

It worked really well. 

A couple did speeches, one sang, another a reading, another two spontaneously planned my hen do abroad. And we had extra photos just us. 

DH has two best best best pals. So he had two best men. 

I got ready with my mum which she loved and she  helped me with my dress etc  

All worked really well. 

Post # 8
5397 posts
Bee Keeper

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tandn :  I personally as a guest don’t keep track that so and so’s wedding had 9 bridesmaids but with only 77 guests. Or why did she only have 3 bridesmaids when there are 300 guests? Do it! These  people are important to you and that’s all that matters. 

Post # 9
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

6 people to 60 isnt that bad… thats 1 bridesmaid per 10 people which is probably the max but not crazy

you could also have people do different roles like ushers, readers, witnesses etc…

im having 3 bridesmaids for a wedding of 48 guests (+ 6 other wedding party members in other roles)

Post # 10
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We’re doing the same size wedding (60 ish people) and decided to do just a Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. The other two ladies that I would have chosen are both pregnant right now. One would deliver about 1.5 months before the wedding and the other will deliver about 2 months after. I figured it would be easier for both of them to not have to stress about finding a dress/how would it fit at that particular moment, having the energy to do all the bridesmaids-y things during the wedding, etc. This way they can just enjoy it.

I have, however, been debating how I can include them. They’re both rather quiet/shy, so I’m not sure if they would want to do a reading or a speech during the toasts. We’ll see. I would like to take some extra photos with the girls I’m closest to, though.

Post # 11
619 posts
Busy bee

We had an intimate wedding of family, grandparents and Godparents. We had the Bridesmaid or Best Man &MOH as our witnesses. Later on we had a large reception, where I asked my best girlfriends that would have been BMs to wear a certain color dress. Then we took lots of fun oictures and partied the night away. It was affordable for them, they bought dresses they would wear again, and they felt special. It was a win-win for us!

Post # 12
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

We are also having a small wedding and so decided on just Maid/Matron of Honor, his best man along w his two kids standing up with us….all our other close friends will be in attendance.


Post # 13
4808 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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tandn :   We had a similar situation and chose to have a Best Man, two ushers and a Best Woman.  

Post # 14
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I had a wedding of about 80 and we had 7 on each side. I don’t think anyone thought it was weird, I loved having a big bridal party. The more the, merrier! 😉

Post # 15
1247 posts
Bumble bee

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tandn :  I think you’re overthinking this.  I’ve never been to a wedding where I thought there were too many people in the bridal party.  If you want all these women as bridesmaids, go for it.

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