(Closed) HELP….tormented about the day of my wedding

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
698 posts
Busy bee

 Let it go. Let. It. Go.


Post # 3
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Why did you post this 4 times?

Post # 4
10019 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Please post the pics, I can’t open the link.  But I agree with misspenny2010 :  that you need to try to let this go and find some peace with it.  Focus on the best thing, that you’re married to the love of your life.

Post # 5
4549 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry you are sad.

You look fine from what I saw. *shrugs*

What is done is done, you gotta let this go.

Post # 6
1587 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

People come on here and post about family walking out of their weddings and actual sad stories from their days not going as planned, but you’re fixated on a puddle in the aisle and wearing your hair down? Bee, please.

Post # 7
1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m sorry things didn’t live up to your fairytale expectation, but life is not a fairytale and mistakes happen even during weddings. You looked really beautiful, and I loved your hair. You need to let this go, it’s not worth being upset over at all. 

Post # 8
6272 posts
Bee Keeper

mar2305 :  it looks like you had a large glamourous wedding. Your look great. Really fab. I don’t know what you’re worried about. 

Post # 9
3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

futuremrscrow :  To torment the rest of us?

mar2305 :  Past is past and you seem to be stressing over nothing, let it go as advised above.

Post # 10
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

 You looked gorgeous.  I find that the more I plan, the more I am let down by the actual event and let little things cloud/disrupt my memory.  Your hair looked fantastic the whole time.  When you watch the video years from now, I’m sure you’ll be very happy about it.  

Post # 11
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

 omg you looked lovely

Post # 12
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You had a wedding with at least 9 bridesmaids, an equal number of groomsmen, a couple ring bearers, a huge Catholic ceremony, and you think anyone noticed how far back you placed the veil on your hair? Seriously???

You know that when you have this many people involved, some things are going to go wrong. It’s just human nature. You know what you expected – but for the most part things went right. You ended up married… You had your dress, the guys all had their suits, the limo arrived, the photographer and videographer got their shots. It all worked out, and I’m sure everyone had a great time  

I get the feeling you know it was a beautiful ceremony and you’re fishing for compliments. Honestly, if it really was a horrible disaster you seem to feel you have to apologize for, I wouldn’t be posting a 5+ minute vid with romantic music over top for the world to see. 

Post # 13
568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

After watching your wedding video,  if you are complaining about a day like you had- with ALL that you had…. I fear for your poor husband and what he’ll have to listen to every day from you.

You might want to start appreciating your life and your many blessings.

Post # 14
1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

 You need to take stock of your life and count your blessings. You had a big beautiful wedding surrounded by people who love you. Small things happen at every wedding- that’s what makes life real and not a magazine spread. Absolutely no one noticed anything you said. Look at your husband and family and be grateful for what you have. Life is too short. 

Post # 15
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I checked out the video, and it looks like a fairytale wedding, and you look beautiful!!! Seriously.

There are tons of threads on here about stuff that people had go wrong on their wedding day – and some of it is really tough, mean family members or emotional things that were really difficult.

Your stuff is adorable though – I mean, I think we all have things like that!  My makeup is not exactly how I wanted it, and I don’t love how I look in my pictures, even though I know that if it were a picture of someone else I’d think she looked beautiful.  My wedding planners screwed up on a couple of things, as did the DJ, and no one could hear our speeches.  The band that was supposed to play our recessional got stuck in traffic and showed up 20 minutes after the ceremony ended.

But you know what else?  It was the most magical, amazing, incredible day of my life.  I can still feel the beating of my husband’s heart in his chest during our first look, and how completely and totally in love with him I felt.  How crazy excited I was to walk down the aisle.  How amazing it was that so many people, all of whom loved us, had made the effort to come and be there.

And I’m serious, when I look back on my wedding day, I remember floating on a cloud.  Sure, little things were not like I had planned in the months I obsessively spent planning them.  But weddings are about love, and love is about imperfection, not being perfect.  And it was still one of the best days of my entire life.

My suggestion: focus on the good things!  Like, literally, write out lists of all the amazing, wonderful things that happened on your wedding day, all the things you are greatful for, every single positive thing you can remember.  And when the thoughts of what went wrong come into your head, just keep focusing on those 🙂

You know the story about the two wolves? (google “two wolves story” and it’ll come up 🙂 ).  This is kinda like that!

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