Post # 16
You’re kidding right? I’ll take your word for it that you aren’t fishing for compliments.
You, and your hair, looked perfect. You are beautiful and stunning. I assure you that no one noticed the little glitches in the ceremony related to the organists or paid any attention to the puddle. I’m sorry the runner was ruined. Were you really planning to use it again?
The video is beautiful and for the record, from the outside there is no hint as to the way you felt. You looked relaxed and very happy.
If this is really the way you feel, you might want to think about whether or not perfectionism and obsessing over things is a pattern for you. If so, don’t be afraid to address the issue.
Post # 17
I can’t imagine what sort of magically unrealistic wedding you expected to have if you thought this wedding was terrible. Every wedding has little things that go wrong. A puddle ruined your day? No one noticed it I’m sure. You looked great. Why are you “tormented”? that’s a bit much eh? Other than the little things you listed, you’re married to the love of your life I assume. Anything more than that is extra.
I’m saying all this because you’re dwelling on things that don’t matter instead of things that should make you happy, you’re gonna drive yourself crazy.
Post # 18
This is the biggest problem in your life? wow.
Post # 19
Tormented? Really? Tormented?
Post # 20
Let’s see what’s tormenting you:
1. You think your veil was a bit high
2. There was some logistical confusion
3. A floating candle got knocked over.
These things are so tiny! No wedding is going to be completely 100% flawless. No one noticed or cared about these things at ALL. Your guests expected a wedding and got a wedding. You’re being a bit silly and obsessing over tiny things – you need to think about literally everything else which looks like it went great. Just enjoy being married!
Post # 21
Seriously? No…SERIOUSLY? Please stop being critical. I watched the video. Everyone and everything looks great!
Post # 22
You looked beautiful and your wedding looked perfect to me!
I think we are our own worst critics. My hair got all messed up in the wind during my outdoor ceremony/cocktail hour, but I’m the only one who seems to notice. When I told Mother-In-Law and Dad to pick couples pictures of DH and me to have framed for them, they both picked ones with my hair all messed up!
Post # 23
I tryly appreciate the feedback, not because I want to hear everyone saying I looked beautiful or that it was a magical wedding. I agree this is def’ something that can happen to any bride or perhaps nothing compared to what has happended at other weddigns. I do believe that with social media we all fantasize about perfect instagram/pinterest weddings and thats how the whole weddign concept gets distorted. My husband proposed short after my father passed. The wedding was actually the only thing I was looking forward to , kind of like the light at the end of the tunnel…something good was actually coming my way. It can be frustrating but then again that just because of all the expectation brides have of their big day. I over analyzed every detail but forgot to remind myself that nothing is perfect. I actually shared my same day edit here I have not done so on Facebook just beacuse I feel that this blog gave me the opportunity to vent out and say what i felt and not to brag. I didnt want to share how upset i was with friends because i didnt want them to feel like they had to say evrythign was great just that i could feel better, others perspectives was exactly what i needed to hear – life is imperfect and im sure i will be able to plan many other future events. As of now I will continue to enjoy married life and not to be so obessive about perfection.
Post # 24
DAMN GIRL, you look like a movie star!
It’s so easy to nit pick everything that went wrong when you spend SO LONG planning every fucking detail, but you have GOT to let them go! You look great, you are married! Watch the video from an outsiders perspective – your guests tear up at your Hs vows, you make him laugh with yours, your grandma is adorable, your bridal party and his both look so happy. That car is soo cool. You are worried about nothing!