(Closed) Help! Torned girl! Diamond or non-diamond

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@fiona8718:  If the diamond is what you’ve wanted all this time and your Fiance wants to give it to you after a year of saving, my vote is to keep it!  You both are in high paying jobs, the house will come.

Post # 4
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609 posts
Busy bee

If I’m looking at my diamond ring wondering how many children died for it, something is wrong.   Choose your ring because you want it. Keep the diamond and be happy he saved up for a beautiful ring.

Post # 6
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I googled how to get sapphires from Asia, and came across the site SJjewelry.com. They’re based in Thailand, so you might want to contact them about getting a sapphire. They don’t list any of their prices online, but it’s worth a shot to e-mail them. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@Jen-in-GA:  +1

@fiona8718:  Keep your gorgeous diamond. You will be wearing it for a lifetime. Your boyfriend worked hard to get it for you. Don’t feel silly or guilty. There is something special about a billion year old honest to goodness from the earth diamond.. Each one unique, kind of like us!

Post # 10
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2743 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

Polar Diamond 🙂

Or as others have suggested an ethically sourced white sapphire. Remember diamonds arent the only blood trade so are settings, and metal. I bought from a jewelery custom house in the states who sources ethically. My center stone is a sapphire, my metal is recycled, and my diamonds ethical. I feel good about this little beauty.

Post # 13
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6355 posts
Bee Keeper

#1 is not that accurate (look into it more if you really are that interested in economics).

Regardless, the price for a good diamond is astronomical, especially for the size you want.

I suggest you look into natural colored gemstones in this size instead. I don’t know what your budget is, but there is such a wide variety and some much more rare than others (common ones are more affordable but just as beautiful) I’m sure there is one that will fit your budget.

Consider sapphires, topaz, quartzes, beryls, spinels, tourmalines… and so many more.

Remember, many of these are treated in all sorts of ways, which you may not like. Treatments should make them much cheaper, but know what you’re getting. Know if they don’t state whether it’s treated, it probably is. Unscrupulous sellers sometimes outright lie. You can get the gem tested at an accedited lab, however. Know treatments you would accept and those you wouldnt. For example, some people will not tolerate lead-filling or nuclear irradiation, but they will accept heat treatment.

It’s an exciting world, that of colored gems! Jump in and enjoy!

Post # 14
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4287 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I would keep it.  You want it really, so just do some different math… over 60 years say.  How much would it be a year? a month? a day?  Cheap huh?!?!?!  LOL, save for it in reverse.  You have already bought it, so I would set it on the cheaper side of things, in a solitaire maybe and love it!  Save more money and get a plain wedding band as well.  You can always upgrade to a blingier band or a fancier setting later if you desire.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

If a diamond is what you’ve always wanted, you should get it.  Just because you wear a diamond (like myself) doesn’t mean you’ve “fallen” for the evil marketing scheme.  A diamond is a beautiful stone! You can always get a conflict free diamond.

Also, if you’re getting a sapphire from Asia, child labor is also present in a number of areas related to the jewelry production there.  Again, there are also conflict free gemstones you can get.

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