(Closed) Help! Torned girl! Diamond or non-diamond

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you are worried about blod diamonds, get a polar bear diamond from Canada.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

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@fiona8718:  I have the same problem, lol.  I always like the expensive things.  For him, make sure you get him a comfort fit band.  I didn’t the first time, and my DH found it so uncomfy and painful.  I just upgraded his to an 18k yellow gold comfort fit band and he loves it.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Well if you really don’t want a lab created stone, then don’t get an Asha or a Moissy, because both of those are lab created. I would also be aware that most sapphires these days are also lab created unless you buy an antique. Natural sapphires are hard to find (at least here in America they are), and when you do find them, they are much more expensive than lab created ones for obvious reasons.

I have nothing against non-diamond stones. I’m getting an Asha myself. But if a diamond is really what you want, that’s what you should get as long as you can afford it. If you get something else, you run the risk of being disappointed later. I would stick with the diamond if I was in your position!

Post # 20
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Busy bee

A lot of people say ‘if you wanted a diamond you’ll only be happy with a diamond’ but I have to disagree.

I always wanted a diamond. Since forever. And I loved the sparkle and the clear colour and EVERYTHING.

But it didn’t make financial sense for us to get it and I got a moissanite instead.

i LOVE it. love it more than any diamond I have ever seen. I can’t even put into words how much I love it.

Don’t be ashamed for ‘falling’ for a diamond. But if you’re worried about how much it cost, and would be happy with a moissanite, then you should definitely consider it.

I recommend buying an enhanced moissanite, the same size as the one you have now, and just look at it. See if you feel the same way about the moissanite that you do about the diamond.

And if you prefer the diamond – keep the diamond! You can return the moissanite but at least then you’ll know that you made the right choice, instead of wondering ‘what if’.

Good luck!

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I agree with Miss Jackrabbit… you can love any other stone just as much. What were your reasons for wanting a diamond so badly when you were young? The look? The reputation (economically, socially, whatever)? Because you wanted to be engaged/married and that was the marketed symbol of that stage in life? 

I knew from the start that I did not want a diamond, but they are everywhere and the more I looked at rings and saw all of the diamonds, the more I started to like the look. Still, I could not get over some feelings I have about diamonds and the industries, including that I find them somewhat cliche. 

Today I got my moissanite in the mail and I am so in love with it. I cannot wait to get it put into my setting! I did not get it because I could not afford a diamond, I got it because it has the look that I want, I can use the extra money toward something else, and I do not have to worry about the origin or history behind the stone. I have read that even though some stones are marketed as being ethical, it can be hard to prove how accurate that is. 

Now all I have to contend with is the fact that my setting is gold. I was not that concerned about it until I was watching a gold mining show recently and saw how much destruction goes into getting just a little bit of gold. I am not an environmental activist, but I still found it horrifying and shameful.

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would say return it soley for the fact that you said you need to save up for a house and it took a year to save for the diamond.   I’ve always wanted a diamond and have one, but I don’t think I would have spent this much money on a ring if it delayed us buying a house. 

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper

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@LilliePad:  It’s not THAT hard to find an untreated natural sapph, but you have to know what you’re looking for and not fall for scams. That’s a little more challenging with natural colored gemstones than with diamonds, due to their lower popularity. But there are reliable vendors and accredited labs… it’s just not like mission impossible or something.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

@fiona8718:  gemstone! cheaper but still something you can pass down to your children!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@fiona8718:  If you already have it, keep it. It’s what you’ve always wanted.

Post # 29
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@fiona8718:  That makes it a little bit easier if it doesnt delay the house.  If it doesn’t hinder any immediate plans for anything, just keep it.  Like you said.. you only get 1 engagement ring, you should be able to look at it and love it completely.  There’s always a twinkle of, “maybe i should have got a less expensive ring” thoughts… 2.5 years later, it still crosses my mind but it passes fast, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with PP, if you want a diamond get a diamond. You’re not going to be happy with something else. Even if it has the “look,” there’s a lot more to having a diamond versus having something that looks like a diamond that is not.

Also, I have to ask because I am a bit confused, what kind of job do you have that is “high income”? I just ask because you use the word “torned,” which isn’t really a word…

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