- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
So I’m having a really hard time cutting down the guest list with my FH. He has a huge family on both sides (total 64) that only includes his aunts/uncles/first cousins. My family is very small all together we are 12 people. My parents will be paying for the wedding and his philosophy is that he wants to invite anyone that he is close to that he wants to be there. My parents want 100-125 max and we finally got the list down to 150. He has the majority of the list, including his friends its 60%. We have a lot of mutual friends which is great, but since I have such a small family I have a lot of close family friends that I see on a regular basis that need to be invited. He is being extremely stubborn about not cutting down his family members, but I know my father doesn’t want to pay for a family reunion for our wedding. He believes if we cut it down its going to be “stuffy” and not fun. I’ve been to weddings with 100 people and they have been a blast so I think his reasoning is totally wrong. He hates the fact that my parents are paying because his family isn’t in a good state financially so they can’t pitch in. Now I’m caught between him and my parents trying to determine who can come and on top of that we are trying to get married in 6 months and haven’t even found a venue which is what I’m focused on. I told him I don’t think its fair for him to have the majority invites especially since my family is paying for it. He thinks they keep coming up with “arbitrary numbers” which is ridiculous because its their money and they need to set a limit. Does anyone have any advice on how to tell him he can’t invite his whole family?