Post # 1
I’m trying to decide exactly who I want to be a bridesmaid and I’m having a little bit of trouble. I’ve already picked my maid of honor (my best friend) and my two sisters as my bridesmaids but this is where I get stuck. I have become really good friends with two girls that I work with over the past few years and we always do things together outside of work. However, lately I’ve started to drift with one of them and only see/talk to her when the three of us have plans so I’ve decided that I will not ask her to be a bridesmaid. I would like to have the other girl I am close with be a bridesmaid but I’m worried this will make things really awkward for the three of us if I only ask one of them. The three of us always hang out together so we still would see each other often, it’s just that the one girl and I really don’t talk outside of the group hangouts. Should I not invite either of them to avoid the awkward situation or do I invite the girl I’m closest with and not the other? Please Help!
Post # 3
Just have your sisters and best friend. They are the girls who have been there through it all and who will remain in your life most likely forever.
Your friends at work are probably going to understand why they aren’t in the wedding party… I think leaving it at 3 is sweet and short and eliminates awkwardness for anyone else not asked since you are having the people most dear to you.
Post # 4
Thanks, that was the idea I was leaning towards. I forgot to mention though that the other two girls weren’t just work friends, we’ve been close close friends for 6 years so I’m worried that they actually are expecting to be in the wedding party. I’ve been friends with my best friend for less time then them as well so I feel like they are going to be upset that I have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor and they aren’t even in the wedding party. 🙁
Post # 5
I agree with artsprout–it is probably easier to have your best friend and your sister as bmaids. But, if it’s really important that you ask your friend at work then you should do it. It may be a little uncomfortable from time to time with the girl you didn’t ask. So just agree not to talk about wedding plans when she’s around, in case she’s bothered by it.
Post # 6
ask the people who you feel will give you the best support along the way and on the wedding day.
i asked the girls that i knew would still be ‘my girls’ when me and Fiance celebrate our 25th anniversary!!
Post # 7
Whoever you decide, make sure they are not people who will stress you out. make sure they are people who will be there for you, make sure they are dependable. I made the mistake of not doing that….