- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Hi Bees – I really need some ideas/advice on a touchy family situation, please.
I am going dress shopping this weekend with my mom, sister (MOH), one of my bridesmaids, my Future Mother-In-Law, my FI’s grandmother (FFIL’s mom), and one of FMIL’s best friends (FILs don’t have any daughters, so I was trying to be as inclusive as possible in terms of inviting FI’s family to these types of more “girly” events). Anyway, we are going to a dress shop that is owned by one of FMIL’s friends, which is great and I’m really excited!
However, now I’m worried that my mom might feel a little left out. My greatest concern is regarding my grandmother (mom’s mom), who passed away about two years ago (at the age of 100!), and I know my mom is really sad that her mom won’t be there for all of these big moments (I’m the oldest of two children in our family and the first to get married). I was trying to be inclusive by inviting FI’s grandma (between the two of us, she’s our only living grandparent), but now I’m worried that having her there might make my mom extra sad. Of course I can’t, and wouldn’t want to uninvite her, but I’m wondering if anyone has any ideas as to how I could somehow incorporate my grandma into the day without making things more difficult for my mom.
One additional thing that I’m worried about is that my mom won’t have a lot of support there, and since Future Mother-In-Law is bringing one of her friends (she did ask and I said that was fine) and another one of her friends owns the store, that kind of leaves my mom on her own. So do you think maybe I should ask my mom if she wants to bring a friend? I just don’t want to make things even worse by having my mom feeling left out on top of it all.
Sorry for the novel, and thanks for sticking with me if you made it this far! I just really need some advice because I want everyone to enjoy the day and I would hate to have my mom feeling down. Any ideas/thoughts/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.