(Closed) Help! TTC with low sex drive? Advice??

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
26 posts

Hey! So the trick with conception is that you’ll want to focus on BD during your fertile window…ideally every day or every other day. BUT the fertile window is really only 5 days out of a month, and the rest of the time you guys can go at it only as the mood strikes you. I’d recommend using this time prior to actively TTCing to really familiar with your cycle. Like many other Bees I used the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility to understand the cycle and learn how to chart. Temps, cervical fluid and maybe ovulation tests will give you enough information that you can make the most of your BDing without exhausting yourself! Good luck!

Post # 4
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t have an answer for you, but I was wondering, what exactly does “Not trying not to concieve” mean?


Good luck though! 

Post # 5
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@fresitachulita:  I think the “if it happens it happens” kind of thing, either no protection but not timing for FW or using some not so safe method like pulling out.

Post # 7
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsDiddles:  If you don’t work out I suggest trying it. The release endorphins that make you feel happier and it’s correlated with a higher sex drive. It will also make your pregnancy easier and gives you more energy.


Also if you feel good about yourself than your more likely to want to have sex. 


You could even go crazy and try a pole dancing class to get down with your sexy self 😉 I haven’t tried it but let me know if you do. I mean even PG I kind of want to do it now!

Post # 8
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Not to downplay the romance but TTC will give you a goal.  You have to have sex a certain number of times at a certain time so your “drive” will be replaced with motivation towards the goal of getting pregnant.  You can have fun while your at it (and your husand will love it)!  Getting a BFN was pretty motivating for me!  

Post # 9
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@MrsDiddles:  It’s not about how often you do it, it’s about WHEN. Darling Husband and I only DTD twice the entire month of February because we gave each other a cold but both times were in my fertile window. I had implantation bleeding the first week of March and a BFP by March 10. 

Post # 10
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

what does POAS mean? i can’t find it anywhere!!!

Post # 12
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Heyyy I saw this show once, where the couple commited to having sex no matter what for a whole month.. Now this might seem excessive so maybe pick a time frame more along the line of 2 weeks! Apparently it breaks the ice, makes things fun, and once you get it going maybe your libido will pick up the pace? I bet your hubby would like this idea 

Post # 13
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have a similar issue and have been actively ttc for 8 months. Try having a lot of fore play and try lube (sperm friendly when actively ttc). Maybe your hormones are out of balance? 

Post # 14
1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You may want to talk to your doctor about your low sex drive, it can always be a sign of an underlying problem.

One thing that should make you feel better, my doctor told me to have less sex. She said sperm lives for 36 hours so only have sex every other day in your fertile window rather than every day. It gives his sperm a chance to build back up which will help increase the chances of getting one through the goalie. 

Darling Husband and I have a very active sex life but his schedule changed at the end of February, beginning of March and we just didn’t have as much time together much less time to BD. I made sure to BD in our fertile window and March was the month we conceived so I think there’s truth to the theory that less sex means more effectiveness. My best friend’s husband also works crazy hours, they BD once in one month and conceived that one time and it happened again 5 months after the first baby was born. So don’t feel like you have to BD every day to conceive, just make sure that it’s the right time, especially if you want to avoid BD often. 

Post # 15
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

 I had low drive after being on an SSRI for anxiety( it’s one of the side effects) my dr. Told me to try Maca root. You can get it at health food stores in the vitamin section. It helped a lot for me and Darling Husband who was having some issues as week. You take between 1800-2200mg a day. you can look it up online. But like PP have said its more about timing to your fertile window than doing it every day. Good luck! 

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