(Closed) HELP: TWW agony afraid Hubby will mistrust, sorry longish

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

urgh that is a hard and and sticky situation :(. first i want to say that a little white like such as deleting itunes should not be a big deal….so im wondering if there have been issues in the past that make your Darling Husband think that he cant trust you??

Secondly, understand that babies are blessing so although he might be upset at the beginning…im sure he will get over it in the long run. anytime you go off BC there is chance that he you will get preggo so he should be aware of that. Im not sure what a sponge is or how it works….but hopefully your symtoms are all mental and you and you husband can start TTC on a date that you both agree on.

wishing you all the best!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was positive I was pregnant these past two cycle of TTC.   I’ve been charting since 2005 and felt very different.   I wasn’t pregnant and each cycle you only have a 15-25% chance of pregnancy, even with perfect timing.

It sounds like a lot is at play.  I hope you two can talk things through.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well there are ideal times for some couples I suppose, but If you want children and your having sex you have to be prepared with the aftermath of what that combination may produce.

As you guys know, nothing is 100 percent effective at preventing pregnancy except abstinence.

Seems to me like you guys have some issues that you will want to heal up and clear up if you can before you start pushing dates for having kids.

As the PP’s mentioned, theres a good chance you are not pregnant. Try and relax and take care of yourself in the meantime 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee

thanks for updating.  good luck to you!

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Even if you aren’t pregnant, I’d still recommend having a chat with your husband to let him know how you felt this time around – “There were a couple days when I thought I might be pregnant last month and was afraid of how you’d react and that you’d think I planned to get pregnant. I’m not pregnant, but this is something we should talk about now, in case we do accidentally get pregnant before we plan to.”

There’s no reason you should be stressed out about an unplanned pregnancy because you don’t think your husband will trust that you didn’t do it on purpose.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree w/ Goldilocks – you might want to even have this conversation with him today (in case it turns out that you are pregnant….which you probably are not!)

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have been completely, absolutely CONVINCED that I am KU every cycle that we have been TTC.  So far, I haven’t been any of those times.  The mind is a tricky, tricky thing.

I agree with PPs that you need to talk to your husband.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

You two definitely have communication (and possibly trust) issues on all fronts that need to be worked out before you become parents. Letting yourself do petty things like deleting songs from his iTunes when you’re frustrated and lying about it gets nothing accomplished. It’s time to act your age and learn to sort things out like a mature adult so you can set a good example for your future children.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Audreysdance: your not supposed to change kitty litter while pregnant??? Really? Why?

And that is good your not prego. Work on the communication a little bit and I am sure you guys will work it out.

Also stop looking at the baby magazines! When I had baby fever before I just looked on puppy adoption sites lol. It helped me focus on cute little sad “babies” without people to love them. lol it worked for me. 

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