Post # 1
Hello fellow bees,
I need some advice, my fiance and I have been engaged for almost a year now and are planning the wedding for November. At first everything was fun and games and he was excited about the wedding and details etc, but in the past 3 months something has changed and he isn’t the guy I fell in love with.
For example recently my mother & I met up with my future Mother-In-Law and my fiance to discuss the reception plans. It went to hell, my Mother-In-Law didn’t like anything and critizied everything we had done and he just sat there and said NOTHING! My mom is being a awesome rockstar and making everything from scratch from center pieces to the bridesmaids jackets, and my Mother-In-Law just sat there and basically said nothing was goo enough, and my fiance could see the disappointment in my eyes and he said NOTHING to his mother. I really don’t know how to feel about this. It seems as if he doesn’t want to get married anymore and this worries me….
Post # 3
It seems as if he doesn’t want to get married anymore and this worries me….
sounds more like he probably just doesnt know how to stand up to his mother. or maybe he’s just gotten overwhelmed with/isnt concerned about all the details
Post # 4
It sounds more like he is scared of disagreeing with his mom. Have you talked to him about it?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be worried that he’s not crazy excited. Most guys don’t get into the planning, it’s just not their thing. I’d be more concerned that he’s not standing up for you to his mother. It’s not her wedding, and if she’s not paying for it, she doesn’t really get a say in it. I’d be having a talk with him about his attitude towards his you around his mother. What happens when she criticizes your house, your children, etc. down the road?
Post # 6
I think you should talk to your Fiance. Maybe he just isnt so into the planning anymore but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to get married- I think it’s just a man thing. My Fiance goes through phases where he’s really into it, then he isn’t all that interested anymore. I think he knows I have it covered, likes that I’m enjoying the planning, and that’s enough for him.
Post # 7
Thanks guys! I think your right….
Planning on talking to him later on today about it!
I did talk to him about all the wedding stuff and it was the whole ‘as long as your happy I’m happy’ talk and we are good now. Just have to deal with his mommy issues….