- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
Hi bees! I could use some advice.
I’m getting married in 2014, and currently working on grad school in Europe. One of my friends here announced her engagement during the holidays, and plans to marry this coming summer. I really like this girl so I agreed to be a bridesmaid and do everything I can to help.
She’s working with a tight budget and a short timeline, so she’s asking our circle of friends here for a lot of help. The wedding traditions in my friends’ cultures are different than American weddings– they hadn’t heard of save the dates or a bridal shower– and she’s starting to want to do an American-style wedding, and many of the people who agreed to help are now feeling kind of overwhelmed and blindsided by the amount of time, money and effort that goes into planning a wedding.
She emailed out a list of tasks and who she would like to do them. (Not all of these people are bridesmaids.) Some people among our friends feel frustrated/offended by this, and the bride is also frustrated by the attitudes of people who’d said they’d help.
Here’s my problem: she is asking me to throw her bridal shower. The issue is that most people whom she wants to involve are unfamiliar with this tradition and if I ask them to come to a party and give her presents on top of the other things she has asked them to do, they will be offended and probably refuse to do it! They might even get mad at me as well.
For instance, she wants it to be the same weekend as her bachelorette party, which she seems to expect to be pretty fancy. We are all students and just do not have a lot of time or money to devote to this during the final semester of our program. I’m scared to ask her to even register for gifts because she has somewhat expensive taste, I think everyone would ignore the registry
In addition to the wedding planning and academic stress, she is dealing with some difficult personal issues, and I really do want to help her any way I can. I don’t want to disappoint her, but I don’t know what to do.
Does anyone have ideas for/links to good threads about/examples of bridal shower ideas that will be very inexpensive for the hostess and the guests?
Or ideas of what I should say to her about this?