(Closed) Help! Unwanted guest to a destination wedding

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2 posts
Wannabee

Hey,

Have you tried and talked to her about her behaviour? I mean, not to step on her toes. But she might need to hear it. And well.. you can always withdraw the invitation. Why did you invite her in the first place, like was it to be nice or is she related to you?

 

Kind Regards, Tessa

Post # 5
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1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You should definitely call her and have a chat before she flies in. Be gently honest. The worst that can happen is that she’ll get really angry and not come (problem kinda solved). But hopefully you’ll just get through to her and she’ll be calm and respectful.

Post # 6
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749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can’t uninvite her. I don’t think you should have sent her the invite at all, but its too late now. I think you just have to bite the bullet and deal with it on the day of. Hopefully she will behave.

Post # 7
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Perhaps you can appoint a mutual friend to basically keep an eye on her. Or invite some really good looking Italian guys and hope she is too busy chasing after them to worry about causing any drama.

Post # 8
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3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

this is why i believe in honest interaction. you may have hurt her feelings up front if you explained the situation, but you wouldn’t be dealing with an unwanted guest. truthfulness trumps!

she got an invitation to a wedding of someone she considers a friend and has made the plans. you can not uninvite her. you have to treat her kindly and respectfully, like any other guest.

if you do not consider her a friend, i’m not sure why you would invite her. even if she is a friend of a friend. i’d have 100x the number of guests if i used that criteria. this is a life lesson- don’t invite if they’re not welcome.

Post # 10
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

do u think she thought you were planning on not inviting her and that is why she told you about “summer classes?”  You’ll just have to see how it goes as you cannot uninvite her.

 

Post # 12
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jessgat:  I guess I don’t know exactly what antics you think she’ll pull, but I think people tend to not notice others as much as you think they will.  Are all your friends going to sit at an honor table, or just BMs?  Casue you should prob just sit her with your other friends who are not BMs.  Not sure what advice to give you…mabe talk to her good friend who is your Bridesmaid or Best Man…:/

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