(Closed) HELP! Update: invited to the wedding but no invite

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you have to travel, just tell her you’re sorry that you can’t make it.  If it’s not a big deal, just go.

Post # 6
38 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

@WestCoast:  Personally I would go since you originally told her that you would. She’s probably already had to pay for your meal/seat. Since you do have a test the next day, don’t stay late. Just until it’s polite to leave. And don’t worry about not having her registry info, just give her a cash gift!

Post # 7
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You don’t need to bring a gift to the wedding- you can ship it or bring it to her afterwards. If you want to go, you don’t need to stay the whole night.


Post # 8
712 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you are under no obligation to go to the wedding.  Your test is a bigger deal than her wedding.  So say that unfortunately, since you never received the invitation, you made other plans and can’t make it.

Post # 9
30399 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t go.

I would tell her that as I never received an invitation, I assumed she had to make cuts to her guest list and unfortunately had made other plans-this is true-studying and resting up for the next day.

I would wish her well and send a gift after the wedding.

Post # 12
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@WestCoast:  Sounds perfect! I wouldn’t go to a wedding I hadn’t received an invitation for. If she asked if you got it, she probably didn’t send it and once you told her you didn’t receive one, she could have made sure you’d get one even if it was hand-delivered.

Post # 13
3615 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@WestCoast:  The fact that she asked if you got it means she didn’t send it..how awkward! Glad you handled that mess

Post # 16
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

maybe you could stop by for part of it and be sure to explain to her that you have a test. It will mean a lot that you can for part of it despite your test!

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