Post # 1
The wedding isn’t for awhile but I wanted to get some opinions while I have it on my mind.
My dad’s family is from Ohio (3 siblings) and one sister lives in Pennsylvania. They have a wedding tradition of breaking into the bride and groom’s house (if no one has a key) and trashing the place.
- Take the labels off the canned goods
- Put pantry items in the refrigerator or freezer
- Move furniture to other rooms
- Toilet paper the outside of the house
- The bride 2 years ago found her shoes all over the stairs
- Leave messages on mirrors in lipstick
- Take the door off the hinges and then put the door back so when you open it, the door falls down
- Saran wrap over the toilet bowl
- Swap the mattress with the box spring then make the bed
My sister was happy to prank our cousin when he got married and of course took pictures. She’ll email me the pictures so I can show y’all.
Now you might say, Louanne, you’re getting married in NC, they are coming from Ohio, you’ll be safe! Wrong! Two years ago when my cousin from PA got married in his hometown, the family broke into his house because no one had a key, and trashed the place. I refused to participate so I chatted with my grandfather at my aunt’s house.
So here’s the problem: Mike and I don’t want our place trashed by my family. What can we do to avoid this?
Mike’s good friend works for the local Sherriff’s Department so we are going to ask a Deputy to stay at our apartment when we’re not there to thwart any shenanigans. I’m also going to open a PO box and put the PO box address on the wedding invitations so no one knows where we live. I won’t tell my parents even. I trust no one but Mike.
Post # 3
Omg! That sounds like the worst wedding tradition ever! :-O
Post # 4
that’s crazy! good call on the deputy. i’d also give your neighbors a head-up so they can report anything suspicious
Post # 5
Well if you’re calling in the deputy and he has his eye on things sounds like a good thwarting.
Post # 6
What a whacked-out “tradition”!
I use these alarmed door stoppers on my doors at home for extra security – they are LOUD and work really well: http://www.amazon.com/50246-Smart-Home-Door-Alarm/dp/B0000YNR4M
Obviously you couldn’t put them on every door, but on all except one.
How have they broken into other homes? Jimmying locks? Breaking windows? I can’t even imagine. I guess you have to think about their tactics to think of ways to combat them.
Post # 7
I think that’s a hilarious tradition! No real damage is done, so why not let them have their fun. They sound pretty creative. lol
Post # 8
@louanneandmike: Wow…door off the hinges…that is dangerous! Atleast you kinda know what you’re in for if that were to happen…
I say get a sheriff!
Post # 9
@ItWasntMe: The last thing I’d want to come home to after a wedding/honeymoon is a big mess in my house. The canned goods having their labels removed causes long-term frustration when you’re trying to cook.
No way would I be okay with my family doing this. I don’t think it’s funny – I think it’s rude.
Post # 10
@Kurzweil: I know with my cousin’s house 2 years ago they pried open the bathroom window and my sister climbed in and unlocked the front door.
My fiance’ has started apartment shopping and I’m going to demand an apartment on the second or higher floor.
Post # 11
I would definitely recommend getting the cop to stay there. There is no way I would allow this to happen, I probably wouldn’t talk to anyone for a while after if they did this to me. Who does stuff like this? As if you need to have to come home from your honeymoon to a bunch of unnecessary cleaning.
Post # 12
Once you get closer to your event, start a rumor in your family that it is best if the tradition ends with your wedding because you have a neighbor who calls the police on every odd noise, and they will arrest someone who doesn’t live on the property – family or not. Basically, have them worried about it before they even start thinking about it. Between that, having a deputy on site, alerting your neighbors, and your lack of participation in previous attacks, perhaps they will grow up a little.
I’ve never heard of anything so awful for newlyweds. I’ve been on my share of toilet paper excursions, but wasn’t that something people were supposed to grow out of in high school?
Post # 13
Oh hell no. I would tell them flat out they better not do it or you will file a police report and give them names/addresses of the parties involved. That may sound harsh, but if anyone else broke into your home you’d call the cops. Seriously. That is high school crap.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
My Mom told me that they did this back in her day (so like 25 years ago), and we’re up in Canada! So I don’t think its only in your state :P.
I would recommend either getting home security like ADT, so if they break in, the alarms go, and cops come…. or getting the cop outside like you said.
Post # 15
Not sure if this applies beccause this just might be the way apartments are designed in my area, but how do they get into the apartment building. I know to get into our apartment building you have to walk through a lobby that has a desk attendant.
If that is how your apartment is set up, cann’t you just have the desk attendant keep an eye out for them, or only allow guest up when you are home?
Post # 16
That’s so horrible it’s *almost* funny. What if you just talked to them about it and told them how much you really didn’t want it to happen to you? I’m guessing you have already thought of that but see it hasn’t been mentioned here yet…