Post # 1
My Fiance and I set the date for our wedding to be June 8, 2013 in Florida, where all of our family and friends live. We live in California and I just recently had the idea of getting married in Vegas October of this year (2012). We would have his mom, my mom and her husband, both of my sisters and my FI’s best friend and his wife as our guests and then just have a big reception in June like we had planned (the ceremony itself would have been quick anyways with a big reception aka PARTY! following), we just won’t have the wedding ceremony since we will already be married. I mean, we don’t really know anyone who has the opportunity to get married in Vegas! Everyone gets married on the beach, churches, rivers, etc. I was thinking it would be different and totally memorable! I definitely plan to purchase the dress I’ve had my eyes on and wear it to our actual wedding in Vegas.
I was just looking for some opinions on this and also what can we do for the rest of the wedding party that we had planned to have standing by us had we did the ceremomy in June. We had planned to have 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen. Our wedding was to be on the beach at noon with eating, drinking, swimming, sunning and good times immediately following for the rest of the day. Should I still have the bridesmaids wear a simple dress of the color I had chosen and the groomsmen wear khakis and a collared shirt of the same color as the bridesmaids dresses and get some pics with all of us before changing into swimwear/more comfy clothes? Of course I would wear a cute little white dress (I’m thinking knee length) and my Fiance would wear khakis and a white collared shirt. Only while we take pics, eat and socialize for a bit before hitting the water and sun. Or should everyone just dress casually/swimwear, etc and don’t worry about the would be wedding party/group pics and everyone just take casual pics as the day progresses with eating, drinking, socializing, sunning and swimming? Thanks in advance for any assistance anyone can give!
Post # 3
I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a celebration party further on down the road! Sounds like it will be less stress in fact than planning a full wedding with all the guests.
For a celebration party, I don’t think bridesmaids and groomsmen are needed anymore. Once you feel like you’re really going to do the Vegas route, I’d let those people knw that it’s just going to be a party now and they won’t have any roles any longer, but stay tuned for a great party!
When I was married the first time, we had celebration parties thrown 4 months after the actual wedding date. Each mother threw a party in our home state. It was casual, but lots of food, drink, cake. My mom’s party for us was conveniently (or not so conveniently) combined with my sisters college graduation party HA!
Post # 4
With so much time passing between the legal wedding and the planned reception, I don’t think you CAN have bridesmaids and groomsmen. I also think you should limit your staged/posed photos and seek out more candid photo op’s. Basically try not to make it look like a Wedding Junior. You will have had the better part of a year go by after you officially got married, and while you can still call it a “reception” I don’t think you can even properly call it a “wedding reception” without risking some people being put off. I’d also set my expectations quite a bit lower in terms of gifts, as many people will not see a need to buy a gift for a couple that’s been married for 9 months by then. And you’ll need to skip any showers, bachelorette or bachelor parties.
If you plan it as you and your FH just throwing a big, casual party for everyone in honor of the fact that you got married, it’ll work out fine. But if you try to make it too wedding-centric or incorporate too many of the traditional wedding elements, it will be awkward and confusing for your guests (plus you could end up looking gift-grabby).
Post # 5
Thanks, and just to clarify, I’m not concerned with getting a lot of gifts or anything, I just want everyone to be able to celebrate this with us! Would it be proper to have a gift wish list for the actual Vegas wedding, though?
Post # 6
@cherrybomb1979: By gifts list to you mean create a wedding registry at a Bed, Bath, Beyond or somewhere?
You could register for gifts online somewhere. Then if your mom or his friend ask where are you registered or what to get you for a gift (which is not mandatory by the way!), you can tell them where you are registered. Just don’t advertise/tell that you are already registered anywhere – save it for when/if people ask! Some people already know how to hunt for that stuff online.
For your party, if peple wat to give you a gift, then they will ask around if you are registered. I just got cash at my celebration parties way back when. I was surprised that people even did that! It wasn’t a wedding.
Fiance and I do not want any gifts. His mom said I really should register somewhere because his aunt (who was not invited) really wanted to get us a gift regardless. I have not and will not register. We’ll probably be eloping with just his parents.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t distribute a gift list outside of people actually invited to attend.