- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016
Hi there bees
I have been lurking on wedding bee since I got engaged last year but this is my first serious post. I have been researching and tossing up ideas with my Fiance for our wedding non-stop since we got engaged but we just simply can’t seem to lock down a plan that is do-able, affordable and will include all our family/not offend anyone. Now I know bees are amazing problems solvers so I thought I would put my story out and see if anyone can help. Please excuse the length of this post.
I am from overseas and my family (exlcuding my parents) are still overseas, I also have some family members in the U.K.. Then where my Fiance and I live is at least 12hours of traveling (flights or driving) to our nearest family members who are in the same country. Then to add to this my FI’ s family is spread out all over our country (I’m talking 23h drive between the furthest members) and most of our friends are friends from uni and live basically all over the world (NZ, America etc.). Now I am very close to my two and only cousins and have been to both their weddings ( as a bridesmaid) in two different countries, these weddings were beautiful and very special to me BUT the amount stress that each cousin went through to organise these weddings with such spread out family is not something I want to deal with.
One of my cousins also can’t travel until late next year due to passport issues and I wouldn’t want to have all my family with me except for her as this would feel wrong and upset us all to not have her with us. BUT I also dont want to wait 2 years to get married.
Some of the options I have discussed with my fiance are two small weddings, one in my home country and one in our current residence , we really want to get married in a certain month early next year so this would mean two weddings months apart…. and then if we invite our friends they will come and this will make the wedding in our home country much larger than our wedding in my home country which means maybe the later wedding will not seem as ‘real’ and important to be present at. Then I start to think maybe I should just have a small wedding with just our parents and then celebrate with all my family and friends at different at locations and travel all over as our honeymoon….
It’s just so confusing… and I keep on going backwards and forwards with options, any idea or advice ?