(Closed) Help w/ unconventional wedding/picking a date!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It’s a consideration with the weather (depending on where you are it could be severe) but I’m a sucker for dates and having a year to the day is soooo romantic. Plus if January is an off season in your area that could mean choice of vendors and big savings.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should do what feels right to you. A January wedding can be so beautiful! But if people are traveling very far, and there is a risk that people that you really want to be there won’t be able to make it, then you might want to reconsider.

Plenty of people get married in January!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ll admit something awfully selfish. We have a lot of birthdays in our family between January and March, so we didn’t want to have a birthday in that time period because we want a month to ourselves. That’s why we picked April. Do you have a weird concentration of dates in a few months’ span? I would maybe stay away from those.

January is only tough if your family’s coming from far away and you live somewhere like New York, Boston, or Chicago where the airports shut down all the time.

I adore winter color palettes and decor. January sounds beautiful to me!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I also had to deal with the whole immigration thing (interview is in a month…yikes) but I feel that the most important moment for us was deciding to get married. We had to make a very quick choice in order to spend our lives together now or postpone it for months. So we went to the court house alone and the “big” wedding will be in July 2012. Even without the big white dress and the 200 guests, I feel like I am already his wife. And I am! The big wedding is nothing but the cherry on the cake. It is an occasion to celebrate and party with your loved one but it is not a goal in itself. If the date that you chose has a meaning (like a year from the actual wedding), then I think you should go for it. People will be very happy for you even if they might not be able to make it because it is too far or because the weather is not ideal.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@forforever: Can I change my vote to 11.11.11? It’s a pretty cool date!!

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

first of all, my sister did a similar thing. got legally married over a year before her husband could come to Canada.

as for the date thing, i totally get why you want to do that and i would probably want to do the same thing. i like making dates meaningful and i think you should do what you want.  btw, i traveled to New Zealand in January for a friends wedding! so i am sure people would do it for you if they want to come.  once we got there the weather was nice of course, but we had some flight delays because of ice and snow

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow, that’s so tempting about the anniversary date, but honestly, as someone who lives in Boston – you’re begging for half your guests to either not make it there or to be stranded. It could be a real disaster. If fall too soon? Maine in Oct would be absolutely lovely. Otherwise, I would really wait until April or later, just to avoid the very real hazards (I got stuck in Toronto in January last year because Boston and Toronto were both so bad. I’ve gotten stuck in Maine before, too. It’s something that happens almost every time I fly in the winter!)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would love to share the whole immigration nightmare! I can’t wait for this thing to be over… My family is pretty religious when his is not. We are both very family oriented as well, but I have been hanging with his side a lot while the only people he met were my parents. We had a lunch/reception with my parents who flied for the occasion and his and a bunch of his closest friends so they could get to know each other. I knew from the beginning I wanted a religious ceremony as well since it is very important for me and even more for my family. His side organized a bunch of get-together so they could get to know me better over christmas and thanksgiving and present me officially as part of the family. My side reacquires a bit more of protocol, so the big wedding is the religious ceremony. It was supposed to take place this summer but two of my cousins also decided to get married in July and the priest we want will not be available in august. So we postponed it for a year,but I don’t really mind. As I said,I already feel married and though I will also enjoy the big thing,it is also a lot for my family. If that is what you feel as well, then maybe you should wait and check with the VIP what would be more convenient for them and act accordingly.

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