(Closed) Help!! waiting is driving me crazy!!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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114 posts
Blushing bee

@Lilith:  

gosh that sounds a bit confusing! Your timescales sound like they have gotten a bit muddled! I would sit down and have a relaxed chat about what you are planning in the next few years. I did think why can’t the 5 year ring be an engagement ring too! My oh have me a ring after 4 years which he said wasn’t an engagement ring, and I still don’t have one 5 years later!! 

Or why not combine the travelling with the wedding and have a destination wedding?! That would def make it a memorable trip!!! Or if you get engaged before you go you’ll have plenty of time to think about what you want for your wedding.

Either way, I hope it is soon, hang in there!

Post # 4
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1144 posts
Bumble bee

@Lilith:  I’d say now would be the time to have a frank conversation with him. I’d calmly ask him where he sees you two going because you are ready to take the next step and see where he is. I think 5 years is a long time and it seems like he’s getting all the benefits of being married but he hasn’t had to buy a ring. Or maybe he doesn’t have the money now, but if you’re willing to split half of it then he doesn’t really have an excuse anymore. I’m the same age as you and I’m in the throes of waiting as well….it kind of sucks!

*hugs*

Post # 6
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2317 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Tough one. If I were you I’d put off the travelling for getting engaged, and try to sell him the idea of transforming the travel plans into a honeymoon. Might put it off a year or so, but if you BOTH truly want to get married, it will happen.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  Thanks, I hope the OP Boyfriend or Best Friend goes for it, seems like a win win plan.

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