Post # 1
I have known my man for 6 years but been in a committed relationship going on 1 year. We have a beautiful 1 year old daughter. I am shy about a lot of things but when we started dating I am the one that said I think we should date. We have been happy ever since I am his R.O.D. I can’t see my life without him in it. He means everything to me. He’s my Life and She’s my World. Now how do I go about proposing to him without sounding demanding?Should I try in put it into a poem and let him read it? I have thrown hints like I can’t be without you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. So any and all advice is welcome. Thank you
Post # 3
@ladiibug: Personally, I would just have a talk about it so he knows what I was thinking and then leave it up to him. But I would be VERY clear that it should happen LOL
Post # 4
I would just make sure that it is clearly known that you are ready for marriage and leave the rest up to him unless it’s something you really want to do and something you know he won’t mind. My SO would be MORTIFIED if I asked him so please just make sure that he will be fine with it!
And I personally wouldn’t use any quotes or poems. I find cheesy things make me uneasy so I would simply just tell him how in love I am with him and that I want to spend the rest of my life with him!
Post # 5
I find the most effective way of communicating anything is from the heart, however most people find that words are terribly inadequate when it comes to the more important moments in life…if you are actually going to propose, the sky is the limit! You could literally find any way to make your feelings known, but it’s such a personal thing….lipstick on a mirror, a note, a song…a scavenger hunt…who knows?
What’s your fella into? Graphic Novels? Horror Flicks? Sports? I would find the thing he’s really excited and interested in and find a way to weave it into that.
Post # 6
@Nona99: He’s a sports guy. Football to be exact. I feel as if if I say something it will come our wrong. That why I wanted to write a poem or something along those lines.
Post # 7
I think somehwere I heard that women are only to ask a man to marry in a leap year. And this year is a leap year… so you have about 81 days to do it! LOL
Post # 8
I would just have a marriage talk with him. Let your man propose to you! Maybe it’s old fashion, but there’s no better feeling in the world than having your SO get down on one knee and ask you to be his wife! 🙂 I think it’s such a beautiful moment that every girl deserves!
But that’s just my opinion! You know him better than any of us.. Haha 🙂 Do what you feel is right, and with him in mind. Good luck an. Congrats on all of your happiness!
Post # 9
I say go for it! And you could cook his favorite meal and give him the poem over dinner. My best friend asked her now FI to marry her and he said yes.. And then for Christmas he asked her rofl. It’s not the 1920’s, it’s nothing wrong with going for what you love and want. Good luck
Post # 10
I def wouldn’t do a poem or quotes b/c it’s just not my thing personally. Have you guys talked about marriage at all? I agree with the PP who said weave it into something he’s interested in
Post # 11
@happyface: Yea I heard that also. But it would be nice to change it up and the woman do the proposing. Alot if pple are against it but YOLO, right??? Why not take that chance.
Post # 12
@klingon: This is a great point! I have no issues with women doing the proposing, but certain guys might find it emasculating. Gender roles are annoyingly deepset.
I think a candid conversation is the best route 🙂
Also, if you haven’t discussed marriage at all, there is a chance he’ll say ‘no’ (if he’s not ready) or be really caught off guard and not know what to say. I don’t know any men who would propose if they weren’t sure the answer would be ‘yes’. It would take a lot of guts for anyone (man or woman) to propose ‘blindly’ so-to-speak.
Post # 13
@DecoMeOut: We have discussed marriage before. I have had him watch ‘SYTTD’ and ‘Four Weddings’. we also talked about the type of dress I would wear.
Post # 14
If I really wanted to do this I would say its been 6 years we have a daughter, I know I want to spend the rest of my life with you, how would you feel about getting married?
See how he responds if he says that sounds great then say well how bout it then? Then he can make actual plans and if he wanted to do the on one knee bit it opens it up for him to do so. That way its a discussion and no emasculating, and you got to basically propose.
FI and I had a really serious discussion (probably our 10th discussion about getting married lol but this one was super serious) a few days later he got down on one knee with a ring.